I completely and totally relate to all of this as well. It’s tough when a part of you can justify returning to what is ultimately bad for you. Over-empathy as well makes it hard — like thoughts of “Oh — I understand him BETTER than everyone else. He needs me because I get him. I can handle this because I was made for this kind of pain.” It’s messed up but incredible to take a look back and realize — woah. Really glad I got out of that. Congrats on building those boundaries. I’m definitely still working on those.