Reclaiming My Life

Not too long ago, I asked myself a question.

“Who does your life belong to?”

I know that this seems like an absurd question. As a husband the natural answer is that my life belongs to my wife. Being a Christian, I would have answered anyone else, or even my self on any other day, that my life belongs to Jesus. Not that day. On that day I had to answer the question honestly.

As I marinated in that question the answers became painfully clear to me.

My conclusion?

“Not me.”

The truth is that most of us don’t have our lives under our own command. Even though we like to think that we rule our own lives, the reality is that our lives are ruled by other people.


There are very few people in the world who live according to what they wish their priority was, instead their priority is dictated by their employer. I have heard more people apologize to those who should take precedence in their lives for missing an important event than apologizing to a boss because of an important event. I know in my life when the boss calls, I stop what I’m doing (no matter what it is) and answer the call.

Greg McKeown, in his book “Essentialism: The Disciplined Pursuit of Less” said,

“If you Don’t define your own priority then somebody else will.”

This truth revealed to me that my life belonged more to my boss than it did my family, or worse yet, Myself.


When I think about finances, the word slave comes to mind. If you don’t think that you are a slave to money then it is one of two things.1) You have graduated and practice the principals taught in Dave Ramsay’s Financial Peace University2) You are delusional

I’m sure there are more options, but I don’t really think that there are any other viable ones. Though I see many people who are living lavishly and seemingly without worry, but what can’t be seen is that they are drowning in their debt.

As a coach of young people I have asked many of them what they aspire to be when they grow up. Once they hit about nine or ten years old they all begin to say similar things.

  • Lawyer
  • Doctor
  • Financial Advisor
  • Professional Athlete
  • Super Star
  • Business Owner

The list goes on. When I ask them why they want to be these things the number one answer that I get is… You guessed it, money. Once in a while a young person will tell me what they wish they could do, but then realize that it probably won’t make them the money they want for the life they wish to live so the “settle” for something that makes more money. The reason for this is simple. Their parents are slave to their money as well.Whether it is the abundance or lack of, money holds most people captive.


Fitness is another area that can either be in abundance or lacking that most people have no control over. People either obsess over the need to be bigger or more defined, or are paralyzed by their lack of fitness. This is a tough topic to discuss here. In my case, my emotional state is largely affected by my level of fitness, but I have also been known to go too far towards trying to fit a certain physique. Never actually looking at my natural potential keeps me from reaching the best physical me possible. So in an attempt to not speak too deeply into an area in which I have little expertise, I will simply state that many of us are held captive by our fitness in one way or another.

Don’t misunderstand me. None of these things are inherently bad, however nothing should take precedence over the things that are most important to your life. For me as a Christian that is my relationship with Christ. The fact that these things have taken me captive alludes to the truth of my spiritual state.

When someone or something takes me captive and I have no control over myself, then I am obviously not living in line with the heart of Jesus. When I realized this truth, and saw that my priority was being defined by someone other than who I am in Jesus, I thought it was time to reclaim my life.

This is my journey to reclaim my life. I hope you will journey with me and begin the process of reclaiming yours as well.