Finding One’s True Calling— Try, Try, Try!!!

Tina Dias
Tina Dias
Nov 19, 2014 · 6 min read

I am at the Air Canada Lounge in Vancouver Airport waiting for the red eye flight to Toronto. Only four more hours to go. I just spent 4 hours at the Seattle Airport reading yet another great book. I just finished reading Immunity to Change and The Power of Habit (two must reads) and am now reading something a little different by Wayne Dyer: I Can See Clearly Now.

It has been a long journey considering I left Toronto yesterday. The purpose of my trip was to facilitate a morning Box of Crayons Great Work Kickstart workshop to a global organization’s Finance team who was comprised of people from Finland, Asia and Brazil to name a few countries. You may be wondering why I or anyone would travel so far for a few hours of work. The truth of the matter is that I love what I do — I love my calling. It took me a while to learn what it is I like doing and more so to realize what I was really good at too…blush!!!

I consider myself a bit of a snob when it comes to what I choose to facilitate. I can’t say I always had the luxury to say this. I am extremely selective when it comes to choosing the right companies and programs. The only real way to learn about what you like and don’t like is to try things out. TRY…TRY…TRY. If you ‘him-haw’ about whether your should try something or not, I say, just do it. You can’t have regrets for trying, only for not trying. After all, what’s the worst that can happen?

Let me share something with you: When I first started my own business in 2009, I pretty much took any contract offered to me. Some I loved and some I hated. Some clients were awesome to work with and others, well…not so much. At first I wondered why I was accepting jobs I did not enjoy as that is one reason I left the corporate world — to do the stuff I love. Then I realized I could only truly learn what I love to do by trying stuff out. I had also come to the realization that I did not fully know what I liked, rather I knew more of what I disliked and no longer wanted to do.

Here is what I can say for sure: being happy in your work means doing great work. Great work is that work that excites you, stretches you, creates fear (good fear) in you, allows you to feel a sense of pride of having accomplished it, and finally it is that work that you can talk about with true passion. When you are doing your great work, people see it in your eyes and in how you talk about it. This is directly from the workshop I facilitated this morning. Learn more about the great work programs at www.boxofcrayons.biz.

Since starting my own practice/business I struggled with differentiating myself from what other Coaches or Leadership Consultants did. Even after completing my Masters Degree in Leadership I felt I had not much more to offer than others in my field. I continued to coach leaders and dabbed into some personal coaching. I found myself going to remote locations such as Nunavik and Africa as well as across Canada doing some leadership, coaching and other work I was not passionate about and some I loved. What I realized by accepting these contracts was that I rather not be as busy initially and do more meaningful work, the stuff that stirs my heart. I found myself starting to say “no thank you” to some great paying opportunities to stay true to who I really wanted to be. This is how I started to really define what it was that I loved to do. I created some space for thinking and reflecting on what it was I truly wanted to do and kept clarifying it.

Today, I am clear on what I do and with whom I work. I partner with extraordinary companies and connect with fantabulous people who are smarter and more successful than I am in order to stretch myself and learn. I have the privilege of being on the faculty of Box of Crayons as a Program Leader and facilitate programs that I wish I had developed myself. Partnering with such a fantastic founder and his team of like-minded individuals only makes me want to improve and excel in the work I do. I have also partnered with some other great companies over the past few years, mostly in the mining industry, only to learn how much I enjoy designing and facilitating leadership and coaching programs. I love watching individuals learn about themselves and see the shifts occur each and every time I see them, year after year. I feel passionate writing about how much I have enjoyed this work.

It is a true blessing to know, for now, I have arrived at a place that resonates with who I want to be, although I am well aware that this too shall shift and I will continue to evolve and grow my practice and clarify my vision as I move forward. It is really about continually developing our personal mastery and our vision. Peter Senge illustrates this well when he writes that “People with high levels of personal mastery are continually expanding their ability to create the results in life they truly seek … They have a sense of purpose that lies behind their visions and goals. For such a person, a vision is a calling rather than simply a good idea ... Personal mastery goes beyond competence and skills, though it is grounded in competence and skills. It goes beyond spiritual unfolding or opening, although it requires spiritual growth. It means approaching ones life as a creative work, living life from a creative as opposed to reactive viewpoint”.

In this process of finding what it is that stirs my heart, I found myself attracted to clients (individuals and teams) who were at crossroads and searching for their own vision/purpose and calling. Supporting them through their crossroads allowed me to again realize this was a life’s passion and why I am designing my own program called “Navigating Crossroads”. I am passionate about helping people move forward and live a life that aligns with where they want to be and work in a way that stirs their heart.

So, to summarize my true calling, here is who I am today (smiling):

As a Coach, I work primarily with Entrepreneurs, Executives and Hi-Potential Leaders to unlock their highest potential;

As a Creative Designer and Facilitator Extraordinaire, I partner with organizations to design and/or facilitate leadership and coaching programs;

As a Mentor Coach, I support Coaches starting or wanting to grow their business;

As a Speaker, I invite you to invite me to stimulate your brain about how to navigate your crossroad and live YOUR life and do what stirs your heart.

As a Volunteer Coach, among other efforts, I support Toronto Civic Action’s DiverseCity Fellows Program and also offer complimentary coaching to one individual annually that has found themselves at a crossroad — in a real crisis.

You can learn more by perusing my NEW website www.tinadias.ca

I look forward to supporting you!

Allow me to leave you with a passage from Dyer’s book where he quotes Henry David Thoreau: “ if one advances confidently in the direction of his dreams, and endeavors to live the life he has imagined, he will meet with a success unexpected in common hours”.

Tina

    Tina Dias

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    Tina Dias

    Facilitator * Coach * Speaker