Rewriting the Story of our Life — Finding Meaning Within Ourselves



Posted on July 17, 2014

by TinaDias

Since my return from business trips to Africa and Montreal, I have been in deep research, for my Program ‘Crack the SAFE’, which entails reading books and articles on what is essential to live our life the fullest and rewrite our stories to reflect who we really want to be and live in alignment with that person.

Topics such as dreaming big, envisioning our future, bringing meaning back into our lives, dealing with fears and barriers, changing our patterns and habits, learning how our brain works and how it can help us, understanding mainly that our desire to become who we really want to become lies in our own being. I have begun the outline of the program and am excited to help you rewrite your story to help you be a happier YOU and live a life with meaning.

I have come across many themes, some of which I will share with you today. It seems that the most important element of living a fulfilling life is to look within as we can find the answers inside of us. It is our responsibility after all!

Anna Quindlen, in her book Black and Blue wrote so eloquently: “I read and walked for miles at night along the beach, writing bad blank verse and searching endlessly for someone wonderful who would step out of the darkness and change my life. It never crossed my mind that that person could be me”.

In her book, Why Wait to be Great- Its now or too late, Terry Hawkins wrote “It is no one else’s job to make you feel happy, satisfied, or loved. It’s your responsibility. Claiming ownership of your story and taking personal responsibility means that you’re in charge of your life”

John Izzo PhD, in his book the five secrets you must discover before you die wrote, “If we are to follow our hearts and be true to ourselves, we must first make the choice to live our lives awake. But what does it mean to live life awake? Socrates said that the unexamined life is not worth living … Unless you are continually examining your life to make sure it is on target, there is a very good chance that you will wind up living someone else’s life, which means coming to the end of your life and realizing that you had followed a path that was not your own”.

It feels so empowering to read so many great statements. The question, how do we put all of this into action? That is what the program will bring to life. We will examine who you are today and who you want to be and how to create that amazing story.

I am a believer that it is never too late to make changes we long for in life. I don’t know where I came from or where I am going next, if anywhere. What I do know is that while I am here, in this form, I have a soul that desires to accompany my chosen body and provide me with great life experiences. I am not afraid as I have learned that no matter how bad the decision or step may have been, I have always bounced back; I have developed resilience.

Throughout my life many people have often told me I was “lucky”. As I reflect on this word today, I realize it was not luck but a persistent desire to make things better for myself. I took steps to make the changes I wanted and needed to make which in turn brought me what I truly desired – learning to love who I am and doing what I love. Is that luck? In the book, Something More – Excavating Your Authentic Self by Sarah Ban Breathnach, she quotes Amy Tan: “How can you say luck and chance are the same thing? Chance is the first step you take, luck is what comes afterwards”. So I guess I took the chance, the first step, many times. There were times where taking the step was not easy, like leaving relationships, or moving away from family. And there were times, where taking that fist step was liberating and so right, from the minute I dreamed of taking it.

A theme that arose in my reading is that need to find meaning in one’s life. Wayne Dyer in his book (and movie) The Shift, wrote it beautifully: “The Great Hunger, the greatest hunger of all, is the hunger for meaning” and “It does not matter how long we’ve allowed ourselves to travel the road of our false self. We know when it isn’t leading us to a sense of purpose sand significance, and we can admit we’re on a wrong path. The awareness that our life lacks Meaning is more than enough evidence that it’s time to make a U-turn”. Margaret Mead wrote: “The need to find meaning … is as real as the need for trust and for love, for relations with other human beings”.

So, does your life have meaning? If not, no worries! “It’s never too late – in fiction or in life – to revise” wrote Nancy Thayer

After all, “There is no agony like bearing an untold story inside you” Zora Neale Nurston.

Do you have an untold story?