Defaulting to No
On one of the podcasts I listen to weekly, one of the hosts, Bryan regularly makes fun of the other host, Anderson, because he often defaults to no. Bryan will make a simple statement or make a request and the first words out of Anderson’s mouth is no, even though most of the time, he will change his mind and wind up on Bryan’s side. It is quite funny how the two go back and forth.
In our nation, we are seeing a default to no, right now. Justice Scalia died and within HOURS, the Senate Republican leader said that he would not accept any of President Obama’s nominees. I started chuckling because this is within hours of Scalia’s passing and there have been zero nominees presented. In fact, the political pundits have been fighting over whether it is right or wrong for a President to put forth a nominee in an election year. People have chosen sides without any mention of who the nominee is. The default answer is no for the party when it comes to Obama.
When it isn’t funny is when one actually meets someone who defaults to no. I am the pastor and throughout my many years, I have met people who’s default answer was no, no matter what the issue was. If the pastor or anyone in authority was proposing something, it was an instant no.
I’ll give an example. I had recently changed some information on a church account I had. I went to the proper person to explain how this information changed. The person didn’t believe me and started to question me. Note, I was the one who changed the information, so I had the correct answer. When I reassured the person this was correct information, the person once again didn’t believe me and started to question me. This went on over six times! It wasn’t until the person had the changes presented from a different person that belief happened. The person still did not believe I was presenting the correct changes, even though the proof was in the person’s hand and I had made the changes, but rather the other source was right. In other words, with me, the default answer was no, even with proper proof.
So, what does one do in these types of situations? What happens when a whole church defaults to no, as some actually do when it comes to changes that may help a church? Why do people default to no?