The 7 Secrets You Need to Know for Soul Level Healing

Colette Davenport
Sep 4, 2018 · 11 min read

If you’re depressed, anxious, or addicted and tired of the traditional approach that only treats the symptoms, this is for you.

For the last decade I’ve been on a self-healing journey. I’ve learned how to speak to my soul and listen for what it desires. Prior to that I was more interested in partying, making a living on my sexy good looks, and living as close to a life of leisure as possible.

What was the catalyst for such a drastic change? Lumpy.

Lumpy is the lime-sized brain stem tumor that’s been hanging around my neck for a quarter of my life.

While my journey started out trying to “fix what was wrong with my body,” (ya know, so I could get back to being sexy) I ended up healing the wounds in my soul, understanding who I truly am, and how to use the unique gifts I possess as an empath.

What does that look like IRL?

Freedom. No longer am I secretly sick, sad, lonely or addicted.

  • I wake up everyday feeling certain of myself.
  • I get to make a living speaking to people like me who are hungry to heal and get their magic back.
  • I am surrounded by a community of (mostly)women who get me and lift me up so I can be the badass I was born to be.
  • I’ve optimized my environments so I no longer fall into the bad habits that were keeping me numb, stuck and struggling.

Who knew a former call girl would find her calling as a Badass Empath?

The following are the seven secrets I learned from Lumpy and am passing on to you (to save you a decade of suffering).

Recognize Your Power

The most creative act you will ever undertake is the act of creating yourself. — Deepak Chopra

We create ourselves every day, with every thought and action. Our beliefs and behaviors directly dictate our realities.

Do you realize how much power you have?

Let’s talk for a sec about what power actually is. Power is our ability to create something from nothing. We have the power create works of art, vehicles that transport us to outer space, new human life, as well as spiritual and physical healing.

The nothingness from which we create is also everything.

It is spirit. It is energy. It is consciousness. It is within you. Power, then, is consciousness.

Consciousness is ever present and effortlessly abundant. When we realize and align ourselves with this inherent power, healing is possible.

It’s worth noting that our environments are set up to keep us sick, sad, and addicted. Our environments consist of the physical spaces we work and live in, our relationships, as well as the cultures and societies that we are born into and/or choose to be a part of.

You might be thinking, “Well that sucks, what am I supposed to do with that?”

Consider waking up and expanding your consciousness. Our environments tend to be created as a result of fear and our need to control. We think there’s not enough (money, land, time, sex, love) and that we need to “get what’s mine before they do.”

Our environments (job, relationship, etc.) lack power because we do not know ours.

I used to feel so damn powerless when it came to Lumpy. I was ashamed and embarrassed. I was angry and mean (to myself mostly). I told myself, “No one will ever want me with this lump on my neck.” Remember, I used to gauge my self worth on the attention of others, mostly men.

My desirability was everything to me.

The problem with that negative talk and narrow perspective is that it kept me sick. Shame and anger are catabolic energies that contribute to illness.

We all have the power to heal ourselves. We also have the power to make ourselves sick.

I chose option A) healing — and got on with it.

Once we understand the power we possess, we then must choose our state of being.

Choose Your Level of Consciousness

According to Jake Eagle, author of Get Weird, there are three basic levels of consciousness.

  1. Safety Consciousness (Fear — seeks to solve problems, wants to know everything is under control)
  2. Heart Consciousness (Love — seeks to create and connect, wants to share and be free)
  3. Spacious Consciousness (Peace — stillness and bliss, seeks nothing, it “is”)

I like to say, “Consciousness chose you. Now choose the level of consciousness you want to hang out in.”

In safety consciousness, the most common level, we tend to numb out and need stuff to feel better because we’re stressed out. We seek approval and are attached to our problems, our past, and our fears of the future.

From this low vibration, we try our damndest to avoid uncomfortable emotions, burying the feelings inside, creating anxiety and overwhelm.

By contrast, when we level up to heart consciousness, there’s an ease and freedom to our lives. The constant feeling of constraint dissipates and we come alive. We get connected to our power, creative in our actions, and thoughtful, compassionate, and understanding of others.

Unconditional love is possible. Imagine that!

At the level of peace, or spacious consciousness, life and who we are becomes illuminated. Suffering ends. The need to seek ceases because we understand. We know.

These higher levels are not popular, practically speaking. They go against the grain.

Those of us who choose to hang out here stand out. We don’t fit in.

To which I say, “Fuck yeah!”

Let’s fly the high-vibe freak flag! As empaths, highly sensitive and creative people we’ve spent our whole lives trying to fit in.

Trying to be normal (in fear consciousness) is what keeps us anxious, depressed, and addicted to ‘feel good substances.’ If you want to heal yourself you must show up for yourself. No one else is going to do it for you.

No one is coming to save you.

You have to be willing to be seen. I know there’s not a lot of evidence that everything will work out. That’s where trust comes in. You get to choose… fear or faith?

Willingness (310) is a higher vibration than fear (100) and is much higher than shame (below 30).

One thing I know for sure is at the third level of consciousness, peace and faith are forever present. I like it here. And in case you’re wondering, no, I don’t always hang out here.

Raise Your Vibration

Handling an emotional crisis leads to greater wisdom and results in lifetime benefits. Fear of life is really the fear of emotions. It is not the facts that we fear but our feelings about them. Once we have mastery over our feelings, our fear of life diminishes.― Dr. David R. Hawkins, Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender

Emotional intelligence is the key to a kick-ass life.

When we can be with our emotions, rather than fight or fear them, we can then be in any situation and remain steady.

Remaining steady (or fully present) isn’t normal. More often, when triggered, we shut down or strike back.

In his book, Power vs. Force, Dr. Hawkins presents a scientific way to measure energy in the body. He provides a chart with levels of consciousness, emotional states, and our corresponding life views.

In the early years of my healing journey, I descended from anger (150) to fear to apathy (50), all of which are below the threshold of power, which begins at the level of courage (200).

There’s no way I could’ve cured my condition in those vibrational states. I had to dig deep into the emotional wounding (I know, it’s ugly in there) and heal at a soul level if I was ever going to be free of Lumpy.

Heads up. Soul-level healing isn’t an easy thing to do. It ain’t pretty and it’s not for everyone. It requires an investigation of all our deepest, darkest demons. In other words, we gotta deal with our shit. For real.

But the payoff that comes from gettin’ dirty and doing the deeper work is like winning the fucking lottery.

Here’s how we do it…

See It For What It Is

The wound is where light enters you. — Rumi

Your soul wound is your greatest teacher. You received this unique-to-you wound when you were young so you could learn who you are, use your power to heal, and evolve as a human being.

The soul wound is buried pain inside of you that is waiting for your attention.

It gets triggered when something ‘bad’ happens.

The trigger event can be mild, like when someone you’re into sends you a text saying “I’m not interested in you romantically.” Or the situation can be more serious like when you go back to the place you grew up and all the fucked up memories come flooding back in.

Both of these trigger events can cause the wound to surface. Both of these hurt, but you don’t have to let the pain linger.

The anger, the fear, and the shame should be your focus in these situations.

Your feelings, not the details of the situation (or your story), are the key points to help you overcome the struggle and heal.

These intense emotions are the indication that your soul wound has been provoked. If the anger and fear weren’t buried deep inside you already, you would not suffer at the hands of these circumstances.

They would be a non-event.

Feel The Feelings

Get out of your head and into your body. This is the best advice I ever received.

The body is wise, the mind is limiting — especially in fear consciousness, which is where we tend to go when triggered.

As mentioned above, the feelings are the keys to healing. Normally, we attempt to avoid the uncomfortable feelings or sensations in our body. We do things to numb them like watch tv, eat comfort foods, drink, smoke, take drugs, and so on.

I’m suggesting we lean into them instead.

Try this next time you’re triggered.

Tune into your body. Where do you feel the sensation? Try describing it either out loud or in a journal.

Talk to the feeling. Yes, for real.

Here’s an example of what I mean. Let’s say I got that text from the guy I was excited about dating (because I did). My soul wound, that includes fear of rejection, had me feeling anxiety.

I felt it in my gut.

I asked it, “What is this feeling?”

The answer was fear and disappointment.

Then I asked, “What are you telling me?”

The answer, “I’m not good enough”…or more specifically, “I’m an ugly, disgusting waste of time.”

Vulnerability alert: That’s my soul wound.

When you get to that deep pain, you know you’ve hit your wound.

From here, you can see the wound for what it is and process the pain quickly, healing yourself.

Note: This is a process that usually takes a loving guide to help us through but once you get here, your power returns. You are no longer at the mercy of your emotions — or other people’s actions.

I highly encourage you to reach out and get the support your soul desires so you can get on with living a kick-ass life.

Call Back The Cast Offs

Wholeness is not achieved by cutting off a portion of one’s being, but by integration of the contraries. — Carl Jung

Once you’ve softened the intensity of the pain (anger, anxiety, fear, etc.) by feeling it and assessing its purpose you’re better able to begin reclaiming the parts of you formerly cast off, or as Carl Jung says, “the contraries.”

What about yourself did you think was “ugly” or “disgusting”? Love those parts. Love them like your life depends on it.

If you’re pissed at yourself or your body (like I used to be because of Lumpy), now is the time to be kind.

Now is the time to recognize that you and only you can give yourself the love you long for from other people.

You cannot expect them to love you if you don’t fully love yourself. Including the lump.

Try to investigate the rest of your soul wound. It’s there to teach you how to return to wholeness so whatever you’ve claimed to be ugly, disgusting, unlovable or unworthy about yourself, it’s time to embrace it and reintegrate it.

Think about the word “healed”, it’s related to the word “whole” and “holy”.

Your wound is a spiritual one. That’s why I call it a soul wound.

Restate The Facts

Once you make a decision, the universe conspires to make it happen. — Ralph Waldo Emerson

Here’s the part where you get to reprogram your beliefs about yourself.

The soul wound comes with an attached story.

The story is something you told yourself about yourself as a child and you have believed it to be true and factual all these years, subconsciously of course.

Don’t you think it’s high time you put that bitch of a belief to bed and restate the facts?

Allow me to use my soul wound story to illustrate this point.

“I’m an ugly, disgusting waste of time.” That’s some pretty harsh shit. And it’s been the story and subconscious belief (aka buried pain) impacting my thoughts and behaviors since childhood.

It was the hidden catalyst for me going to work as a call girl.

I needed to prove that I was not ugly, disgusting, or a waste of time. I’m guessing a part of me believed if men paid a lot of money to be with me, I was ‘worth it.’

Thank goodness Lumpy showed up to help me heal.

It taught me to communicate with myself on a deeper level. I reached the truth of who I am.

I am a beautiful magnetic woman people love to be with.

As of September 3, 2018 Lumpy is still with me and I am healed at a soul level.

The next phase of my journey is purely experimental. I’m excited to see what’s possible when I optimize my internal and external environments.

So stay tuned!

Now it’s your turn. What self-sabotaging story have you been telling all these years? Are you ready to stop managing the symptoms of your anxiety, depression or addiction?

I believe our job as empaths, healers, and creatives is to heal our wounds and become the powerful, creative, loving creatures we’re capable of being.

If each of us accepted responsibility for our power, level of consciousness, and emotional state, imagine what our relationships and lives would be like. Imagine what our world would be like.

Conclusion

Lumpy taught me how to speak to my soul. I tried to numb out and be normal but that only left me sick, sad, and addicted to the attention of men. A crisis brings us in contact with our soul wound. If we’re ready, we will learn the power we possess, the level of consciousness we can call forth, and the vibrational state that heals. From here we can use my 4-step process to transform any trigger event into a healing one that brings us closer to a life aligned with the soul’s desire. I like to say, “this is how we get our magic back.”

Call to Action

If you are ready to stop feeling sick, sad, lonely or addicted and become the most kick-ass YOU you can be, take the first step now. Download the self-love checklist. Click here to get the checklist right now!

And if you’re interested in working with me privately, LET’S TALK.

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