Lessons I Learned When I had My First Crush
During my junior year of high school I began to like this guy, let’s call him Mike*. He was a member of the school marching band, wrote for the school newspaper and was even in two honor societies. Mike was one of those guys who did just about everything and everyone liked him. Since this was the first time I had a crush on someone who was not a celebrity, I didn’t know how to react. I didn’t know if I should tell him I liked him or just keep my mouth shut. So I just kept to myself at first and avoided him. However, once I got his phone number, I talked to him a lot and we became friends, at least for a while.
During the time I had a crush on Mike, I learned three different lessons about crushes and how to talk to guys. These lessons will come in handy the next time I like someone and I won’t make some of the same mistakes I made with Mike again.
The first lesson I learned is to be friendly and strike up a conversation with your crush. At first I was really shy around Mike and did not know what to say to him. I was afraid of saying the wrong and did not want to look bad around him. So I just kept to myself and tried to avoid him. This was probably not the best way to react to my crush. Mike may have thought I was avoiding him because I didn’t like him or I was afraid of him. That is not a good thing for your crush to think about you at all. Instead, you should try to be friendly towards him. Say Hi to him in the hallway or ask him what he is doing after school. Being friendly towards your crush will make you look like a nice person and may let him know that you like him.
While you should be friendly to your crush and strike up a conversation, you shouldn’t over do it. Once I scored Mike’s phone number, I was texting him everyday. I was mainly telling him about all the exciting things I was doing, such as going to Las Vegas, singing a solo at a recital and going to theater camp. I guess I just wanted to impress him. Even though Mike was really nice to me, I probably got on his nerves. Texting your crush or calling him non stop will not make your crush like you, instead it will just annoy him. So even if you have his phone number, don’t contact him all the time no matter how much you want to. Once a week or less is probably enough.
A final lesson I learned when I had a crush on Mike was to know when it’s best to just move on. I was still texting Mike after he graduated high school and was so set on a relationship with him. However looking back on it, Mike was attending college out of state, so most likely that would not have worked out. Since he wasn’t living near me anymore, I needed to move on from that crush and let him move on as well. If your crush moves away or gets a new girlfriend, you should not have your heart set on a relationship with him. Instead you should move on and look at other guys. You never know if there might be a cute guy in math class or if you might notice someone at a school dance.
In conclusion, having a crush is an awesome thing and may make you feel like you’re on top of the world. However its best to start out by just being friendly with him and not trying to impress him. While you should be friendly with him, do not text him all the time unless you want to annoy him. Lastly, if he moves or gets a new girlfriend, try to move on and look at other guys. I am lucky that Mike was so nice to me and never told me to leave him alone or go away. However, I shouldn’t have taken advantage of his kindness and needed to move on after I realized I probably wouldn’t see him again. My experiences with Mike taught me more about guys then I ever thought I would know and I will definitely use these lessons I learned in future encounters with guys.
