Stories like this irritate tf out of me. Speak up, for pete’s sake. Eat your thoughts at your own peril. You can’t expect someone to read your mind, and you’ll never resolve your issues if you don’t at least TRY to communicate. Perhaps that’s why she feels so victimized — cuz she doesn’t try to speak up anymore. But she needs to do it for her own mental health, and for the health of their relationship.