Tina, Answer #2: There are different degrees of liking and disliking something. It’s unhealthy when you inflict suffering on yourself due to your preferences. Let’s say you’re really excited to eat chocolate cake for dessert. You get really excited about the chocolate cake, and when it’s time for dessert, there’s no chocolate cake left. It’s okay and healthy to be disappointed, but then to say “oh well” and move on. Don’t let there being no chocolate cake disturb your peace. If you get angry and miserable because things didn’t turn out the way you wanted and hoped for them to, this is what the Vipassana practice is working to help you free yourself from. Why make yourself more miserable about something that is temporary? Don’t let your disliking of a person, thing, or situation rob you of your happiness and peace of mind.
How do you get out of this misery? By understanding that pain, sadness, and suffering are a natural part of life. It is also temporary and ever-changing, as is joy, happiness, and pleasure. If you stop fighting things you don’t like and trying desperately to hold onto things you do like, life can become more peaceful. Everything is temporary, so just notice it. Observe it, without any sort of craving or aversion. Everything will ultimately shift, change, or go away, and that’s okay, because something new will take its place.