I am really confused by this article. I think this article is an excuse for the author to not own up to the bad thing she did. The author wanted an open relationship, but the boyfriend didn’t so they took a break, but agreed not to have sex with other people. The author cheated. The boyfriend became angry and broke some stuff. So let me get this straight. Firstly I am going to assume the boyfriend is Korean American. The author cheated on her boyfriend, who also happens to be Asian, which means American society already emasculates him adding salt to the wound of being cheated on. Let’s say the author cheated with a white guy. That would be super painful, because not only is the boyfriend emasculated already by society, but now the person he loves has also emasculated him. I’d rather have a gang beat the shit out of me, then have that happen. He didn’t walk out the door, instead he agreed to go to counseling, when it was the author who cheated. No wonder he started reading TRP. If for some reason the Korean american boyfriend was hypermasculine, it would be from white culture, not Korean culture, since Korean Americans are American. The boyfriend was not hypermasculine. The author probably has never been in a relationship with someone who is hypermasculine, since they are probably in prison. The way this article is written, reminds me of the type of people who for whatever reason cannot say sorry, or acknowledge what they have done is wrong. He yelled and broke stuff, the author cheated. The reason why the relationship ended and why she lost friends, is because she cheated. Reaping the reward of her actions.