THE POLITICS OF PRIORITIZATION IN DATING

A fundamental success concept underlies both politics and matchmaking: Prioritization of traits that are most important to you can help select the right presidential candidate and the perfect match. Your specific values and goals influence your priorities.

The closely watched presidential debates, as evidenced by record-setting TV viewership, have focused on a litany of national and international policy items, including the economy, healthcare, veterans affairs, women’s rights, immigration, global warming, and terrorism. But those election issues cannot be all things to all people. Prioritizing them is necessary to determine the right candidate for you.

Dating is no different.

“All this wishing has led to a case of wanting everything and getting nothing,” writes Dr. Ty Tashiro in his first book, “The Science of Happily Ever After: What Really Matters in the Quest for Enduring Love.” Dr. Tashiro, an acclaimed relationship psychologist, serves as the Chief Science Officer at Connectidy.

Before you can make positive changes in your life, you need to decide what is most important to you, and define what you absolutely must have in your life in order to be content, and what things you can do without. This is especially criticial when you’re looking for a longterm relationship. Connectidy ranks the most important traits with you, so that you do not eliminate people who may be compatible.

When you can mentally separate your priorities and make decisions based on those priorities, you will reap many benefits. Prioritization should dictate the dating process by establishing why we behave the way we do and what priorities make us tick. Dr. Tashiro again explains, “People want to prioritize their most important traits.”

Consider what three traits are the top of your list: Do you want to align yourself with someone who is trustworthy, communicative, ambitious, religious, humorous, patient, respectful, passionate, intelligent, etc.? Connectidy helps you prioritize the values and the qualities that matter most to you through emotional intelligence in order to best evaluate those spot-on choices that work well for you.

Throwing in the kitchen sink to see what sticks will not bring people closer to personal happiness or professional fulfillment. Online filters are fine, but Connectidy works in a way that people do not need to get rid of other valuable, good traits in order to find the right match for them. Filters are the norm on other online matchmaking sites but people should look at them as preferences rather than “rule out” criteria.

Connectidy works by boosting people’s awareness of their distinctive emotional intelligence. It reconciles ambiguous and even self-contradictory data so that you can learn about the right matches for you and further refine whether your priorities are in accordance with your emotional intelligence.

Dating, much like electing the next Leader of the Free World, should be about learning to remove the undesirable traits and rethink one’s views about what really matters. Priorities drive smarter decision-making.

The modern dating landscape that Connectidy is founded upon allows people to reason and react realistically based on prioritization. Narrowing focus can be quite liberating — and triumphant.