I thank you for your honesty and the power of your self-reflection. I am at a much later stage in life. After 40 years of being in a relationship, I am now alone. The habit of partnership as well as its genuine comforts pull at me, but I know that I need this time to discover who I am, undefined by a relationship.
I think this may be a particular challenge for women—although I don’t wish to downplay its importance for men. Women, though, are accustomed to being defined by nurturing others. We have not so much been taught to nurture ourselves.