Does green really look that bad on us?
Jealousy has a bad rep! Spiritual ego kicks our ass along with the New Age Love & Light Gurus ranting about how low vibrational this energy is. The reluctance to being a ‘Negative Nancy’, along with secret worries about attracting bad karma for thinking/feeling this way, is enough to make us stuff that sticky, treacle-like feeling down- DEEP down. After all, it is listed as one of the 7 deadly sins. Who really wants to be a secret hater?! Nobody.
BUT I find jealousy to be one of the most insightful and profound emotions to work with. Yes, it is embedded within our psyche to be a deadly sin. However, the word ‘sin’ originates from Hebrew word ‘Hata’ which means “ To Miss The Mark”. I believe that’s exactly what we’re doing when we demonise any of our emotions, including jealousy. To be in this space of jealousy clearly communicates to us that we are aiming our energy and actions at the wrong place. We are missing our own unique mark. Emotions are not bad. Our relationship with our emotions and the actions taken on the basis of how we feel, are the real cause of problems.
Envy is a beautiful messenger.
The power of jealousy frightens us because it has such a strong energy. But the true power originates from the Desire lurking beneath jealousy. When we look at our jealousy objectively, without attaching shame and judgment to it. Without making ourselves the Green Eyed Monster for daring to feel envious. We are able to clearly hear and see the powerful message it carries with it, to make sure we hit that bulls eye and stop missing the mark!
Jealousy can reveal:
Where we are pretending
The absence of something important in our lives
Where we are unfulfilled
Our authentic truth
What is truly right for us
A piece of the puzzle to our purpose here
Often when we do dare to look, we can get hung up on the ‘thing’- the job, house, car, marriage, beauty, money, connected with the jealousy. However, to harness the beauty of jealousy and work with this emotion artfully, we have to get down to the core of what the ‘thing’ represents for us.
Interviewing Jealousy.
In Psychology when we collect data around a particular variable, we transcribe the interviews and essentially break down huge amounts of data into meaningful chunks of information based on key themes- Thematic analysis.
That’s essentially what I do with jealousy. I interview it. I identify who and what is breathing the life into jealousy, what is causing it. Then I highlight key themes around the feeling having the ‘thing’ in my life would bring. This is where the Beauty is. The realisation that it’s not the things we want that trigger jealousy but the feelings it would bring.
Jealousy beautifully shows me exactly what I need to create more space for in my world and the feelings I want to feel more of. Then we can take action accordingly, using the profound message delivered by Jealousy.
I invite you to give it a try and see if jealousy can help you hit that bulls eye!
