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Loneliness: The Power of The Self

There’s a loneliness epidemic going on right now. People are lonely on a massive scale.

We have placebo for art, porn for sex, money for time and social platforms for human interaction.

But is this bad? Is this the problem? Everyone seems to go out of their way to blame these things for being a bad replacement of real life.

Maybe not everyone…

There are millions of people out there who feel lonely, sometimes even while being surrounded by people.

So for those asking How can I ever overcome the feeling of loneliness? I have an answer for you, but to get to it, we need to assess the problem. I mean the real problem, the reason this problem exists.

Excerpt from The Greatest Con:

We all market ourselves deceitfully. Just look around you…

If the only way we could market ourselves would be to show only the truth, nobody would do it.

And nobody does it.

Being honest results in far more confrontations than lying does and most of us want to avoid those confrontations at all costs. Because we’ve grown comfortable with the leverage this gives us: The Comfort of Hypocrisy.

And it doesn’t matter if you’re surrounded by people you like, because in the end, if you can’t be honest with any of them, you’re not really there. And then most people aren’t really there either.

Most people shy away from looking within themselves, because it makes them feel insecure, vulnerable and grossly flawed.

But if you can’t be honest with yourself then you are Living in Denial; In denial of your own self. So how could you expect yourself to be able to be honest with other people and other people to be honest with you?

People can’t give what they can’t give themselves: Honesty. Love. Acceptance. Forgiveness. Money.


If you can’t give that, then why would you ever expect it from others? And even if you got it, how can you appreciate it if you can’t give back?

Be the Yourself You Want To Be

If you close your eyes and try to imagine the best possible version of you that you can think of, visualize what this person would say to you.

Don’t overthink. In fact, don’t think at all: Just listen. Take your time.

Because this person lives in you and knows exactly what will make you happy. This is The Power of the Self. You have within you the best friend you could ever ask life for, all you need to do is listen.

Your Self knows what you need and how to get it.

In time, with a little practice, you will find that the best way to connect with the world around you is by being in touch with the Yourself You Want To Be.

And then you’d never be lonely again because you’d give to others something that you already gave yourself: Company.

With pleasure,

Louie Blackburn

Originally published at on July 30, 2018.