How To Find The Advice You Need The Most
A Lesson From My Friend John
Advice is a funny thing.
When we agree with it, it’s easy to take in — when we don’t, not so easy.
I know a guy, let’s call him John, who is very argumentative and thinks he’s always right. If you’re ever able to prove him wrong, he gets defensive and will somehow blame you for his mishap. I’m sure a lot of you know people like John.
One day we were talking and I asked him if he was familiar with the Greek philosopher Socrates, to which he was — (of course). I asked what work of his he was familiar with and it his answer was “pretty much everything”, (once again, of course).
I then asked him, well John— I suppose you would familiar with his popular saying;
“I am the wisest man alive, for I know one thing, and that is that I know nothing” – Socrates
John’s answer to this was that yes, of course, he had heard of it!
I told John that maybe he should pay a good lump of attention to it and that he could learn a thing or two from Socrates (as we all could).
He instantly got very defensive and started to personally attack me,
“I know more about life than you Corey! You’re only 17, you need to keep that mouth of yours closed!”
I expected this because it is in his nature to be defensive and never admit a fault. No hard feelings were taken.
After that little rant, he mumbled some bad words under his breath and walked off.
Til’ this day, John is still the exact same — ignorant.
Unfortunately, I don’t think he will ever change, and will probably die this way — as most ignorant people do.
But what if on that day, John had done what a truly wise person would have done — recognised that his need to always be right, was something he felt insecure and vulnerable about, and decided to change that?
The advice you need to listen to the most is the advice that makes you the most uncomfortable.
It is easy to read about being productive when you’re already productive. It is easy to read about being fit and healthy when you’re already fit and healthy. It is easy to read about overcoming some sort of addiction when you’re addiction free.
What we should do instead, is study what we find the most uncomfortable to learn about. People like John — should study humility and modesty. Overweight folks should immerse themselves in healthy eating and exercise related material. You get the gist of it.
While feeling vulnerable or insecure about something, always recognise this as a strength you have and attempt to work on it. In doing this you will grow tremendously as a person.
Excuses are for losers.
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