My heart hurts for you at this time, every family has things that they’d rather sweep under the rug. I have found in my family, once an issue has finally breached the surface of the facade healing truly begins from ground zero. Addiction is hidden, talking about it done in hushed tones, it sucks. Plain and simple. The stigma of drug addiction being something we can’t openly talk about is a symptom of a bigger issue in society. Understanding that it is a disease and not a choice is hard for people who have never been addicted to something can’t understand. I don’t understand it. I do however understand your feeling of exhaustion, the feelings of wanting to help and truly not having the ability.
Much love for you and sympathy, I’m with you.