A Constant Ponderer: A Glimpse Into the Mind of Another
I struggled with how to preface this post, so I decided not to say too much. I must have started writing these compatibility questions about six months ago over a solitary glass of wine; I would have been pondering friendships and relationships (yes, while alone, I see the irony too).
This concept- a compatibility quiz- is not meant to be taken too seriously. Most of the questions that I pose are aimed at determining mind-set or temperament as opposed to having an answer I consider “right” or “wrong.” For instance, in response to the first question about meeting a religious figure, there is no “wrong” answer. If someone would not care to meet any religious figure, then he/she is probably non-religious, which is fine. If someone would like to meet Mary Magdalene to get some behind-the-scenes scoop on the historical Jesus, then that too would be fine. For number eleven, concerning an ideal vacation spot, all answers would intrigue me and I would simply want to know why the choice was made.
Bottom line, I am by no means sharing this as some sort of definitive, compatibility survey. It’s alterable for everyone and is meant to inspire you to think, “what kind of questions would I write?” I view these questions as conversation-starters, and only a few might be considered “deal breakers”…
The Questions that Matter to Me:
- If you could meet one of the following religious/philosophical figures and engage him/her in conversation, you’d choose:
d. Mary Magdalene
e. No thank you, I’d rather not engage
2. When I’m bored, I tend to:
a. Watch something — anything — on TV
b. Start reading a new book
c. Call or e-mail a friend/family member
3. An ideal weekday evening includes:
a. Watching a lot of TV and/or surfing the web
b. Going to happy hour and then coming home to crash
c. Wining and dining with a homemade dinner
4. TRUE/FALSE: Having to wait in line at the grocery store, or at a coffee shop, always puts me in a bad mood.
5. TRUE/FALSE: I try not to accumulate too many unnecessary possessions.
6. If I could have a pet, I’d choose a:
b. Golden Retriever
7. When thinking of an ideal living space, these words come to mind:
a. Luxurious, spacious, expensive, new
b. Small, affordable, rustic, comfortable
8. TRUE/FALSE: I prefer hard-copy books, newspapers and letters compared to digital.
9. It’s Party Time. Your preferred game to play with friends would be:
a. Trivial Pursuit
c. Cards Against Humanity
10. TRUE/FALSE: You believe that individuals should have the right to marry whoever they please (a man OR a woman).
11. A dream vacation spot, to you, would be:
a. southern Thailand
b. Capri, Italy
d. Marrakesh, Morocco
12. How many drinks is TOO many drinks on a week night (assuming you have to work the next day)?
13. TRUE/FALSE: I consider myself a self-reflective person who can handle constructive criticism.
14. In your opinion, how many kids are TOO many kids?
15. TRUE/FALSE: Getting enough exercise is important to me.
16. It’s 4 pm on a Tuesday and a good friend invites you to dinner. You had planned on running errands and staying in. Do you…
a. accept the invitation — perhaps he/she needs to talk about something important and besides, errands can wait.
b. decline the invitation — once you have your mind set on an action, it’s hard to change your course unless absolutely necessary.
c. accept but modify to happy hour — you always try to accommodate others, especially good friends.
17. TRUE/FALSE: When a new version of your favorite smart phone comes out, you are in line to buy it regardless of whether or not you “need” it.
18. TRUE/FALSE: You believe you’re never too old to start a new hobby or learn a new skill.
19. When I die, I’d like my final farewell to be:
a. A formal, traditional funeral led by a member of an organized religion
b. A non-traditional memorial service led by family or friends
c. I don’t care either way, I’ll be dead!
20. TRUE/FALSE: You believe that the teaching of creationism or intelligent design has no place in the science classroom.
21. TRUE/FALSE: You have to have the “last word” in divisive discussions, no matter the topic.
22. Extra money, after paying the bills, is meant to be:
a. saved for a special purpose (like vacation or a special gift for yourself or a loved one)
b. hoarded — to be spent only during retirement
c. spent as soon as possible — YOLO!
23. TRUE/FALSE: Travel, no matter how far the destination, is an important part of my life.
24. Going for an hour-long walk, either alone or with a loved one, sounds:
b. like more exercise than I care to get!
Thanks for reading, as always.
“When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive — to breathe, to think, to enjoy, to love.”