Interesting article, Anna.
Might I offer another perspective?
There is a healthy number of “I’s” in your article.
Often times, it’s best to honor your audience. The most precious gift your audience can give you is their attention for a few brief moments, so aiming the context of your answer towards their perspective not only better connects you with them (and can often turn antagonism into empathy) but also respects the unspoken contract you have with them.
The point being, their criticism may not be about you. Maybe it’s them. It may not concern ‘your’ writing, as such, but instead your opinion, your perspective, or even the way you pad your sentences in the passive voice (this is hypothetical—I’m not suggesting you do this).
Just a thought…