If it would happen that your boss was bullied in the school and a male candidate would remind him…
Sergey Sobolev

The problem with your comparison is that the usage of “crazy eyes’ is historically not on par with bullying trauma. Calling a woman “crazy eyes” or just “crazy” is a long standing form of normalized misogyny and stigmatizes actual mental illness. Behavior in women that men deem crazy is more often then not based on women standing their ground, having strong opinions, getting angry over things they justifiably should be angry over, and for demanding respect. Crazy is an easy way for men to dismiss women, especially past partners, in a way that takes blame of a failed relationship away from the man, despite if the relationship was actually unnaturally volatile or not.

The label of “crazy” for female ex-partners is by and large used to describe fallout from normal relationship disagreements, but men get away with dismissing women while simultaneously stigmatizing them by saying this. The label of “crazy” for male exes is often more based on actual violent, abusive, or possessive behavior. That is not to say that women can never be crazy, or that men are always at fault in failed relationships, but the way crazy is used to describe exes based on gender is very much stacked against women, and often an over-exaggeration. Using that as an excuse to not hire a qualified female candidate is sexist and unacceptable.

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