A (Not So) Quick & Dirty Queer Reflection of Marie Kondo

Creatrix Tiara
Jun 14 · 41 min read
Alishia Holmes-Watson (left), Marie Kondo (center) and Angela Holmes-Watson (right) pose for a photo. The couple are featured on an episode of Netflix’s “Tidying Up With Marie Kondo.” Courtesy of Angela Holmes-Watson. (via)

Preamble


INTRODUCTION

A dramatic reorganisation of the home causes correspondingly dramatic changes in lifestyle and perspective. It is life transforming.

When you put your house in order, you put your affairs and your past in order, too. As a result, you can see quite clearly what you need in life and what you don't, and what you should and shouldn't do.


WHY CAN'T I KEEP MY HOUSE IN ORDER?

When your room is clean and uncluttered, you have no choice but to examine your inner state. You can see any issues you have been avoiding and are forced to deal with them. From the moment you start tidying, you will be compelled to reset your life. As a result, your life will start to change. [...] Tidying is just a tool, not the final destination.


FINISH DISCARDING FIRST

Start by discarding, all at once, intensely and completely

From my experience with private individual lessons, "quickly" means about half a year. That may seem like a long time, but it is only six months out of your whole life.

Before you start, visualise your destination

Selection criteria: does it spark joy?

Keep only those things that speak to your heart. Then take the plunge and discard all the rest.

Starting with mementoes spells certain failure

Don't let your family see + If you're mad at your family, your room may be the cause + What you don't need, your family doesn't either

Tidying is a dialogue with one's self

What to do when you can’t throw something away

Can you truthfully say that you treasure something buried so deeply in a closet or drawer that you have forgotten its existence? If things had feelings, they would certainly not be happy. Free them from the prison to which you have relegated them. Help them leave that deserted isle to which you have exiled them. Let them go, with gratitude.


TIDYING BY CATEGORY WORKS LIKE MAGIC

Clothing

If you are a woman, try wearing something elegant as nightwear. The worst thing you can do is to wear a sloppy sweat suit. I occasionally meet people who dress like this all the time, whether waking or sleeping. If sweatpants are your everyday attire, you’ll end up looking like you belong in them, which is not very attractive. What you wear in the house does impact your self-image.

Books

Papers

Komono (Miscellaneous)

Sentimental Items


STORING YOUR THINGS TO MAKE YOUR LIFE SHINE

Once you learn to choose your belongings properly, you will be left only with the amount that fits perfectly in the space you currently own.


THE MAGIC OF TIDYING DRAMATICALLY TRANSFORMS YOUR LIFE

END

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