The Thing to do for Real Life Changes

Paul James Crook
Aug 22, 2017 · 3 min read

Just Cuss Yourself (contains a profanity)

A Nike advertisement with a poignant message from the 1980s

It comes, as something of a wrench to walk away from what is comfortable. Maybe tomorrow. Maybe, next week looks better. Well, maybe.

Nowadays, tremendous amounts of information are readily available and, after the initial piece, offering the panacea you want for $99.99.

Advice to the rest of us put into a numbered list of three, five, seven habits of, things to do……..Funny always seems to be odd numbered lists. But I see some of caught on and now do four or ten.

Do we need endless lists? Look inside yourself and feel out how you learn. Reading lists and streams of good advice probably not the thing to stimulate change for you.

Fuck the lists

Knowing yourself the imperative, the start of anything worthwhile, how can one change if one does not know how to change?

What to change, develop, throw away? Even the best-written list is static, Dr Benjamin Hardy is fantastic to read. But he is possibly first to acknowledge his influence has limitations. Reading it will have salved our consciousness. Now move on. Or more likely return to the same behaviours causing frustrations.

So what to do?

Make a list. Only partly joking as writing is an act lifting us from the passive reader to an active engager.

Get it out of your head — paper for data and head for thinking. But don’t make endless lists. Definitely don’t spend time reading the endless lists.

But, what is one piece of advice to throw out there on to the social media platforms?

Circumstances so often dictate the need to do something different. So make circumstances cause you to change. Once doing something different, then new patterns emerge.

So what to do?

The tip to tip the tipping point?

Lose your temper and say ‘Fuck it!’

You will be surprised who reacts and how they react. Including you. Fuck it!

Say it out loud if the company permits.

You need to offend a few people to cause you to act.

You are looking to shock those who influence you as well as your internal drivers.

Say it. Say it loud. Fuck it — time for me to move on

Do it. Have some adrenalin pump inside you. Use the energy positively causing you to do things necessary to change.

Affirmative action. Cut off the backsliding and endless compromising, superficial apologies endless backstabbing.

When you feel the frustrations, when you know there is something better, just say;-

  • Fuck It! I’m off to something better.

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