Having a girlfriend in high school

My “experience”

I am currently a “Junior” in high school. During my student years (from 1st grade to the current year), I’ve been in only two schools. Over this time, I’ve also encountered many students from many other schools, each school in a different place in my country. I figured out that what’s considered normal in one, can be considered completely unacceptable or weird in another school. For example, in my first school, I used to have my iPad ready for all my tasks at school. In my new school, we couldn’t even be seen using technology.

Perspective

Back to topic, attractiveness was also a topic of perspective in every school. The girl that could be known as a model in one school, could be the “average” girl in the other. Another thing that was seen as awkward was relationships. In my first school, there were a lot of pretty girls, due to it being an international school. Relationships were also seen as “normal”, I think so. I was even lucky enough to have a girlfriend, she was and is still amazing, even though we haven’t talked in a while since I changed schools.

My experience having one

Back when I had one, I really didn’t know what I was doing, and I am pretty sure she wasn’t as well. When we are younger, we have fewer things to worry about, which is equivalent to fewer things to do. In conclusion, having a girlfriend in freshman year is equivalent to don’t even having one at all, but we decide how we want to spend our childhood right? I had one, so take me as an example.

Hurt her or hurt your grades

I am not an expert in relationships and neither education. I am pretty sure that for someone that doesn’t have an idea about what “time management” is, it can be a problem. Especially for male students, having a girlfriend can make them focus more on the momentary things and let apart their future in education.

Expensive

Leaving the school and education stuff behind, there’s another problem. I am not saying that you need to spend hundreds of dollars on gifts and details like that. Have in mind that even small dates to a cinema, park or party can cost you a big amount over time.

Time Management

If you’re blessed enough to have a girlfriend, but want to continue with the activities you did on a daily, you’ll need to start building a new routine. This routine needs to be organized enough to give an amount of time for both your partner and yourself. It is not always about her. Remember that another value that could be overspent apart from money is time. The principal value you can have is time.

Short-term or Long-term

If you are already in a relationship during high school, or if you’re planning to have one. Maybe you’ll need to consider some things first. For the people planning on being with someone, have a talk with your partner first. Have a better understanding of what they want to do in their future, with their lives. Knowing if both share the same thoughts, perhaps this could tell you if he or she is “the one”. For those already in a relationship, if you feel that things are not going as planned, I’d recommend either both to take a break from each other or finish the relation the earliest possible. In this way, it won’t even be close to your post-high-school life.

Replacing moments

Another concern in relation could be doing is not having enough time for yourself or for others that love you. In life, you’ll hopefully meet your soulmate. Soulmates can come and go, but the ones that have had your back since the begging are your family. They will love and support you no matter what occurs.

It is a blessing

As I mentioned before, relationships come and go. And if you are lucky enough to have one at such a young age, I’d say enjoy it as much as you can. These years will be a part of your life that you’ll never forget. Consider yourself blessed if it even works out after high school, which it probably won’t, so take advantage of the time.

Time will decide

If you are currently not with someone and don’t happen to find anyone compatible with you, then… nothing happens. Suggesting you are in high school, (which is for who this blog is for), you don’t have anything to worry about. These are the best years of your life, you have no need to work, study in big quantities, or even pay for anything related to life. You just attend school and “enjoy life”. Make sure not to spend these years trying to convince someone (that’s probably not worth it at all) to have certain feelings for you. Stop being impulsive and don’t force it to happen. If your partner has not shown up yet, that means he or she will soon. Time will decide.

Opportunities

If you happen to be one of those “lucky ones” find someone who has the same feelings as them as well. Then go for it, as I said before, you have nothing to lose. The worst that could happen is a breakup that will last for about a month.

Love makes us blind

When having a partner, we become less mindful of the things that surround us. Life starts going at a faster pace, and some things can be forgotten to take into consideration. These include small details like leaving apart our family with less attention. It can get to the level of missing or letting pass through us great opportunities for our future. From job offers all the way to scholarships. We never know what could happen while being “love blind”.

Making wise decisions

You and your partner should be at least somewhat clear on what they desire to achieve or do in the future. The two need to have similar thoughts about the topics both share joy for. I am not saying to abandon each other’s goals for being with this person, but establish roadmaps, so both can have a path to follow every day. Even in high school, this may come in handy.

Advantages?

Having a partner has thousands of privileges as well as it has its deceptions. The time you spent with this person, will be kept as a permanent memory if he or she was really worth it. Memories that we’ll always keep in our hearts.

Fewer memories

As well as a relationship adds memories, and it takes away a lot of others. It replaces spaces in your life that you could be spending with your grandparents at dinner. They can be your last days as a teenager with your parents. Traveling to different places and meeting other people is also something that can be difficult, to share during a partnership. (In most cases, but not impossible).

Less time for yourself

Now that you’ve learned to have a certain balance with your life and apply to it more time management, you’ll still be missing a lot of things. The time spent with your loved individual could be an investment in other things. Things that you could actually take advantage of and be proud of in the future.

Focus on your future

Being productive comes as a “must” when talking about success from the begging. You may be enjoying your young life, and having the best time with the person you love, but always remember that you can always be doing something else. Alternating your hobbies and transforming them into fun, constructive activities. Maybe you could even implement this perspective of life and teach your boy/girlfriend about productivity and success.

Outsider’s point of view

I consider myself kind of both an outsider and an insider when talking about early love relations at a young age. I know that the two perspectives can be as bad as the other can be as well. For someone that’s never been in a relationship, it may sound like a dream to them. From others’ perspectives, that’s currently on one or had one before, it is different. The ones that already had a relationship, in school or close to its end, will be more focused on their future goals and education every day coming closer to us.

Experience is what matters

Even if our love connections during high school don’t work out after it is s all over, they will become neither mistakes nor wastes of time. These such called “sad experiences” of breakups and fights will be remembered as something better than that. These are neither mistakes nor wastes of time. The “sad experiences” are still experiences that would serve as lessons to follow and learn from in the future.

Conclusion

Having someone that loves you just the way you are is a blessing. Someone capable of listening to all your stories, thoughts, ideas, and even problems. These are some of the most significant individuals that will make you feel great every day that you are next to them besides our family. Know the difference between enjoying your young life and destroying your soon future. Keep moderation in your life and reach your goals first. It will be hers or his turn to come to you when the time decides to come. Always put your family and yourself before, anyone else. Focus only on what and who really matters.