You Are Ruining Your Life If You Ignore This
We’ve all heard the line, ‘Ignorance is Bliss,’ but that’s an absolute lie. Allowing ignorance in your life is destroying your energy, your potential and your dreams. You are ruining your life by your ignorance.
What am I talking about? The negative flow of thoughts, people and events that bombard you almost every moment of your life — have tremendous power. Dr. Caroline Leaf says that 75% to 95% of the illnesses that plague us today are a direct result of our thought life. We all need to pay attention to more research and what it shows is that ‘fear alone, triggers more than 1,400 known physical and chemical responses and activates more than 30 different hormones as stated in the book,’ ENERGIZE, by Gina Oldenburg.
“As a single footstep will not make a path on the earth, so a single thought will not make a pathway in the mind. To make a deep physical path, we walk again and again. To make a deep mental path, we must think over and over the kind of thoughts we wish to dominate our lives.”
― Henry David Thoreau
Where did we get the idea that information and events we allow into our lives don’t matter? Why do we stand by and watch as we are flooded with the poisons of bad news, negativity and toxic relationships? These things have a PROFOUND effect on how we think and feel. There is no escaping, Listen to me, if you are not vigilant about what you allow into your life you will become the next victim in line who will never accomplish your potential because you stood there and did nothing.
Here’s some research you need to understand — our thoughts spark emotion-driven action. There is no way around it. Once you begin a thought, it triggers a vast array of signals and chemicals in your brain that literally control almost every aspect of how you feel and how you create the next thought.
Our life always expresses the result of our dominant thoughts. ~ Søren Kierkegaard
According to Dr. Athena Staik, “Your thoughts create inner standards or rules that spark neurochemical dynamic processes, which selectively govern your choices and actions with precision. It takes a thought to spark an emotion, or drive a decision to take an action, or to take no action at all. And emotions give meaning to thoughts; they are the spark.”
Simply put, when something happens in life (the event), you immediate tell yourself a story. This happens at lightning speed. Most of those stories are from our past and unfiltered. Then again, at the speed of light, you feel an emotion tied to that story and event, and you act. In highly emotional situations most of us are not acting well at this point because we are filled with painful stories, judgment, fear and loss.
We need to learn to control our thoughts instead of allowing our thoughts to control us.
Do not wait to change things and interrupt our patterns. So what do you do?
You need a plan to turn the tide. So create one.
- More positive thoughts than negative thoughts — 3 to 1 actually. You can start by sitting down in 15-minute increments during your day and simply make an inventory of your thoughts. What are they? Now categorize them into positive and negative. You are mostly unaware of the thoughts flooding your mind. This activity will help you be conscious of them and change them.
- Be friends with positive people — make sure you are spending time with people who inspire you. In real life, on Facebook, the books you read, the things you listen to. Do not waste your time with toxic relationships. Get out of the social media trap that drains your brain and creates negative emotions. Find a mentor, enroll in a course, or hire a coach.
- How you start your day is incredibly important. Protect yourself from negativity! Remember, garbage in — garbage out. If you allow your mind to begin the day with bad news on Facebook, turning on the news, or a stressful to do list in your inbox, chances are that day will not go well for you. Spend the first minutes of your morning focusing on what matters to you. For a detailed plan on how to do this click here.
- End on a GREAT note. How you end one day is how you will begin the next. Make sure it is positive and make sure it is motivating. How do you do this? Write down 3–5 of your biggest wins that day in a journal. They don’t have to be earth shattering. It can be as simple as, “I ran 5 minutes today,” or, “I didn’t give in to negative emotions when I felt them.” Writing down your wins releases the right neurotransmitters and it retrains your brain towards positivity. It also releases inspiring chemicals your body needs like dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin.
- EXERCISE! — There is not greater way to battle negativity than to sweat. It doesn’t even have to be for very long — 20 minutes or so. There are numerous studies that prove that exercise is one of the best things you can do both physically and mentally. It releases a neurotrophic factor, known as BDNF, a neurotransmitter also released into the brain in response to exercise. This chemical has been shown to help reduce the symptoms of depression and can repair the damage in the brain caused by stress.
- Fight less — Praise more. This is the lifestyle of gratitude and thankfulness. We don’t need to spend time defending ourselves and getting what is owed to us. Do the right things, put God first in your life, live a life of integrity, and blessings will overtake you. I’ve had people do some horrible things to me in my life, but I had to let it go. The fight is not worth it. Become a generous person who is known to praise others.
The only way you can lose is to do nothing! Creating a simple plan — and I mean simple. It can have a profound impact on how your feel every single day and it will make a huge difference in helping you live a more positive life! If you need more positive flow in your life, join our exclusive positivity community here, where you will get free videos, ebooks, and resources to help you on your journey. Believing in you every step of the way! ~ TD
Originally published at yourpositivitycoach.com on March 3, 2016.