Things I have learnt about love
Or at least what a 21-year-old girl thinks she knows
I am hopeless with love and relationships. Always jumping from one thing to the other. Here are some of the things I have learnt from my delightful experiences:
- It may not be an absolute truth, but, to my concern, love is, apparently, a decision and not so much of a feeling. There’s a difference between “omg I love this person so much, I really hope they kiss me” and “I genuinely want the best for this human, even if it doesn’t involve me”. One has to do more with being attracted to, infatuated, like being led by your feelings. The other one goes more by the lines of actually caring for someone, watching over them, coming to the realisation of the importance of that other person’s emotions. One is easy. The other, not so much
- Love sure is the cement of a relationship (any kind of relationship), but you can’t build a house on cement only
- The strongest love demonstrations are the ones that don’t require words
- In fact, “I love you” must be the most generic thing you can be told
- That does not mean you shouldn’t believe it when you’re told that. Come on, cheer up! I know many people must love you!
- When arguing with your significant other, consider the possibility -even the slightest- that you might not be right. It doesn’t matter how extremely, positively right you think you are, just imagine that there could be a crazy alternate reality where you are not right. Keep that in mind. It’s very important.
- Learn from your past relationships. Not only the romantic ones, but also friends. Remember what went wrong. Remember what went right. Write it down if necessary. Every person is different, but there are some parameters that will always work the same way and you can learn not to make the same mistakes again.
- Love. Every person in the world has a different way of loving. A different way of seeing love. A different way of demonstrating love. There a billions of us. Enjoy. Enjoy every single of your friends, every single boyfriend or girlfriend you have ‘cause they’re all different and you will ALWAYS learn something new… gotta catch ‘em all, right?
And that’s exactly why this list could keep going on…
Just like love does.
