How to boost your self esteem and confidence instantly

Do you want to boost your self esteem and confidence?

By changing your mindset towards how other people perceive you and your actions, you will be able to instantly boost your self esteem.

So long as you are moving forward, there will always be disapproval. There will always be someone who hates what you do and your opinions. The flip side is that there is a tribe who agrees with you and who thinks you are better than chicken wings coated in butter and hot sauce.

But you need to stop caring what other people think of you.

Boosting your self esteem and confidence is straight-up directly related to not giving a fuck about what other people think of you.

If you’re concerned about what other people think, you’re going to need 2 reality checks.

Reality Check #1: You are already being judged, deal with it.

The threat of judgement is enough to keep some of us from ever taking risks. From ever stepping outside of the intangible borders that are prescribed by society, parents, friends and peers.

But guess what?

You are already being judged.

Someone out there simply doesn’t like your hair, or the way you speak. Your voice annoys someone else. You are 10 IQ points smarter that someone and 20 IQ points lower than someone else.

Both of those people are judging you in their puny brains too.

Who the fuck cares?

The quicker you can come to understand that it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of you, the quicker you can get to doing the good shit. And this is where life gets fun.

What would your life be like if you didn’t care what other people thought of you? Would you drive a different car? Have a different job? Would you still be married or would you get that divorce that you’ve wanted for years but were scared of what your smug married sister would say?

Imagine how free you could be, if what someone said about your love of Nana Mouskouri didn’t bother you and you played that funky music full blast driving down the street in your (sexy as hell) lime green mini moke?

Think you could be happier if you didn’t care? Damn skippy you’d be happier. You can leave behind other people’s expectations of you and just live for yourself.

Reality Check #2: It doesn’t matter if people don’t like you.

Women (of which I am one) in particular are taught that we must be nice, pleasant and polite. We are led to believe through our whole lives that it is important for people to like you. Well guess what?

Fuck That.

It is an exact billion times more important that YOU like YOURSELF. That means you must respect yourself. Can you honestly respect yourself if you are prostrating yourself and trying to make yourself the nicest little version of yourself to every Tom, Dick and Harry you meet?

Now, be cool here. I’m not saying you should be a jerk. I’m suggesting you don’t put up with rudeness. That doesn’t mean you get to dole it out. But when some low-life crosses a boundary, don’t put up with it.

If someone is rude or belittles you, you are absolutely within your right to tell them you want nothing to do with them. If someone offends you, you do not need to be polite and brush it off. Tell them that they are offensive and you’ve had enough.

Just like people are judging you, some people won’t like you. They won’t get the cut of your jib. Some people are just fucking assholes and won’t like the colour of your skin, or your religious beliefs (or lack thereof). Fuck ’em, who needs them? Move on, find a better class of people and do a shimmy for cutting the fat from your social life.

Understand that so long as you like yourself, it doesn’t much matter what other people think.

When you let go of trying to control how other people think of you, you will have the freedom to explore your own soul, to know who you are. To know what makes you light up like a firefly and wakes you up in the morning.

By not giving a fuck what people think of you, you are free to be yourself. You will instantly boost your self esteem and your authentic self will finally shine through. Maybe people will like it, maybe they won’t. You won’t care, and it won’t matter.

What would you do if you didn’t care what anyone thought of you?