Why Men and Women Will Never Be Equal

I know, I know, just hear me out.

Not too long ago, I was having a conversation with an older woman about the relationship she has with her husband. One of the main issues that she brought up was that she felt her husband was not asserting himself enough in the relationship. On a separate occasion, I witnessed a tweet(Twitter) from a younger woman stating that she does indeed look forward to being submissive to her husband. Assert is defined in our dictionary as the act of stating strongly, confidently, or with force. To submit means to give over to, or, to yield to, the power of authority of another.

I believe superior and inferior have taken on a powerful and powerless stigma, respectively. When in reality, there is power in being inferior and power in being superior, it all depends on how the individual defines power to themselves. Inferior is defined as lower in rank or position, something we have all been at one point in our lives. The beauty in being inferior is the ability to have someone rely on you to take orders. It is honorable, a person who has achieved a certain amount of physical power greater than yours, has entrusted you with handling tasks for them. In the case of a man and a woman, a woman has entrusted a man to lead her. A man can not lead a woman if she has not given that trust. That is powerful, because that is reliable. In no way shape or form does that mean you are not allowed to speak up when you have been wronged. Superior is defined as higher quality or higher in rank. The beauty in being superior is hard work. You have worked very hard to get into that position of power. You are now entrusted to give orders and direction because your hard work has proven that your orders and direction lead to extraordinary results. Men, because of the hard work you have put forth, you are now superior to your woman, and if she loves you, she knows this. It is the mans job to supply the order and direction to make sure the relationship goes where it needs to. Based off my observation, some people take superiority to an extreme and claim a false sense of power where they believe they can do whatever they like, whenever they like. So no, not all people in superior positions are fit to be there. In a sense, the same thing happens when inferior comes into play, these people, based off what I have observed, generally feel weak and tend to let things happen to them, whether negative or positive. It seems inferior people let their position — whether in the workplace or in a relationship — define the sense of power they have in themselves. Further damage is done to their power center by superior people, whom feel their power is outside of themselves. Not all inferior people are fit for that position either, however it is necessary at times.

We live in a physical world, things need to be established in the physical realm for us to progress. For physical things to be built, because of the way the world is at this current moment — not to say it is the most beneficial way for the world to work, nor do I disagree with the notion that it is the most beneficial because nothing more beneficial has been proven — money has to be attained. Money brings power. Power brings attention. Attention brings attraction. Attraction is not always sexual, but it is always captivating. Other words for captivating are beauty and excellence. To excel means to be superior, and with superiority, there is no equality.

Now, to the facts.

In a study done by the Harvard Business School in 2015, they found that women are not as motivated as men are to attain positions of power(1). However, they do see professional advancement as equally attainable for men and for women(1). Women did list more total goals than men did(1). According to the same study, women also reported a higher percentage of avoidance goals than men(1). Avoidance, for those who do no know, is the act of avoiding certain situations to prevent psychological damage. Men are more willing to risk psychological health for the attainment of power. This only proves what science has proven centuries ago, that men and women are genetically different, and something that is absolutely necessary for the survival of humankind.

Physically, men and women have a numerous amount of differences. We have two kinds of fat in our body, essential fat and storage fat. Storage fat is excess fat that is not needed to survive on the daily basis. Essential fat is the fat that is needed to maintain life and for reproductive reasons(2). According to the American Council on Exercise, men generally have 2 to 5% of essential fat, and women typically have 10 to 13% of essential fat(2). The extra percentage of fat that women have is for childbearing and is mainly located in the breasts and pelvic regions(2). The more fat that women have is due to the estrogen that women have, and men have more muscle mass due to the presence of testosterone(2). Additionally, testosterone magnifies the training response, so that the response to a given training stimulus is both larger and more rapid in men(2). Furthermore, in tests of upper- and lower- body strength, women are weaker than men in terms of upper- body strength, even after adjustments for differences in muscle mass(2). This explains why at the highest level of professional sports, men typically perform better than women. This will also explain why men’s sports are more popular, better performances will bring more attention. There is also a disease that women can develop called amenorrhea. This disease interrupts the menstrual cycle, and can be brought on by excessive exercise, high energy expenditure, or stress. So slow it down pretty.

Now, let’s head to the bedroom. Ooo.

In 2015, the Journal Of Sexual Medicine published an article on sexual fantasies, what they are, who has them, and which ones are common or uncommon. According to their study, 64% of women have fantasized about being sexually dominated, while 53% of men fantasized about the same thing(3). An indication, once again, of women being more prone and open to the idea of being submissive. This could be due to a genetic construct or a social construct. Nevertheless, women are more susceptible to submission. Which is extremely attractive in my opinion. 72% of men fantasized about having sex with a person they did not know, while 49% of women had the same fantasy(3). I believe this is an indication of the ability that men have, to emotionally detach themselves from situations. A critical ability needed to attain and maintain power, especially since men desire and attain power at a higher rate than women. The difficult task that men face is to integrate. Integrate emotional detachment with the need to feel, and express those feelings when necessary. I’ll save that topic for a later date however.

Inferior or superior, with purpose, you will always find satisfaction in your position.

This is something that has been on my mind for quite a long time, so I figured I would put the pen to the paper, so to speak(lol). Feel free to leave a comment and click that heart. Thank You.

Charles.

Works Cited

Gino, Francesca, Caroline Ashley Wilmuth, and Alison Wood Brooks. “Compared to Men Women View Professional Advancement as Equally Attainable but Less Desirable.” (n.d.): n. pag. Web.

Bryant, Cedric X., and Daniel J. Green. ACE’s Essentials of Exercise Science for Fitness Professionals. San Diego, CA: American Council on Exercise, 2010. Print.

Joyal, Christian C., Amélie Cossette, and Vanessa Lapierre. “What Exactly Is an Unusual Sexual Fantasy?” The Journal of Sexual Medicine 12.2 (2015): 328–40. Web.