Because once you find it, everything else will feel easier.

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I had two milestones each day:

  1. Lunch; and

If I could get through Monday, the rest was a breeze.

And by “breeze” I mean the rest was spent passing the time until the proverbial school bell rang and I was released from this mind-numbingly dull job. I begrudgingly turned up on time (I blame the years of conditioning as a corporate slave, I mean, lawyer) and spent most days waiting for work whilst teetering on the edge of deciding to just casually walk out and never return.

But I didn’t.

The issue was that my role was redundant. They hired me and had no work to give me. But instead of valuing honesty and flexibility, they valued my ass on the chair 9–6 despite them having nothing for me to do. …


Because despite what the textbooks say, you are not a lizard.

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Ralph Steadman’s The Lizard Lounge 1971 https://www.humancondition.com/method-in-the-madness/

Let me start by saying addressing the elephant in the room. Yes, that picture is a room full of evil, distorted-looking reptiles conjured up by the drug connoisseur and well-renowned author, Hunter S. Thompson, whilst on an acid trip.

Although this article has nothing to do with Hunter, this pic from his novel popped into my head after hearing yet another person refer to our lizard brain, as if we’re all actually reptiles just pretending to be humans. Maybe you’ve heard the term?

People speak of the “reptilian brain” as if we’ve got some small ancient fossil inside of our brains. It’s used in marketing to appeal to your inhibitions and animalistic desires, but that’s not actually what’s happening when you give into your impulses. …


Because no one wants to be life’s victim, and no one wants to hang out with one either.

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Answer this truthfully…are you really living your life? Or are you pretty good at existing, flowing with, and reacting to things as they happen? Better yet, are you steering at the helm with a sense of personal responsibility, or are you sitting in the passenger seat, letting others decide for you?

Whatever your answer is, it’s OK. You’re human, and you’re most certainly not perfect. None of us are, but no one wants to be life’s victim, and no one wants to hang out with one either, so if you are playing the character that blames their circumstances instead of taking responsibility as a key player in your own story, then here’s your wake-up call. …


You can’t control your life if you know nothing about the thing controlling it.

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They say “What you don’t know can’t hurt you”, but when it comes to your mind, this statement couldn’t be further from the truth.

What you don’t know about your mind, what runs it, and how it drives your life can definitely hurt you — and probably more than anything else.

As a therapist and former social anxiety sufferer, I know exactly how important it is, and how life-changing it can be, to start living with intention and take back the reigns of your life. …


Learn the art of living without the end in mind.

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‘To live is the rarest thing in the world, most people just exist.’— Oscar Wilde

It was a bluebird day at the top of one of Austria’s highest peaks. Awe and gratitude are what I remember feeling. Reverence, too.

Headphones in, I don’t remember what song was playing but I was on my own, ambivalent about the ski run ahead of me (Muggengrat is a notoriously difficult red run featuring a confronting yet unavoidable cliff, which I learned the hard way). I was grateful for the distraction of one of the most beautiful views across the Vorarlberg Alps.

I started to feel human again. …


Would you rather live uncertain but hopeful, or certain but hopeless?

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To set the record straight — I don’t regret the fact that I sacrificed my happiness for money. I owe a lot to that part of my life.

This isn’t another “quit your job and go traveling” article. This is about a difficult personal sacrifice I made and the reasons why I did it. Instead of looking back on my early twenties and saying “ah those were the days”, I see a young grad hell-bent on being a top corporate lawyer and doing whatever I needed to do to get there.

Looking back, I was motivated to build a successful life where money didn’t cause problems (like it did in my childhood). By 25, I reached a six-figure salary, but I was utterly miserable. I realised that no job or amount of money made it any better. …


Your inner world is the only place from which escape is impossible.

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Photo by Brooke Cagle on Unsplash

No one can truly understand what depression feels like unless they’ve experienced it. But even then, how could I truly know if you’re feeling what I’m feeling? Or what an 18-year-old boy feels when he’s depressed as opposed to that of a 54-year-old woman. Even though millions suffer from it, most will confirm that it’s a lonely and strange internal world, one that no one else understands.

Having suffered from intense anxiety, married someone with depression, and helped others navigate the depths of depression’s darkness, I know one thing for sure: it’s there for a reason. …


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I still remember our first kiss.

Actually, the moment right before.

I can’t even remember what we were talking about.

We’d only just met — a chance encounter in a ski shop the day before ignited something unexpected and a little unnerving. It’s rare to meet a stranger that you feel like you’ve known for years.

He offered to take me skiing and for once I went with my gut: yes.

Ever met someone new and found yourself obsessing over that first kiss? Will it be good? Will he lean in? Or should I? …


The growing industry of coaches coaching other coaches.

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I don’t know about you, but I feel like I’m surrounded by coaches coaching other coaches.

Mindset coaches. Transformational coaches. Life coaches.

And I’m sick of being told I need one.

You have to invest in yourself if you really want to get ahead.

Absolutely agree.

If you want to see multiple 6-figure months, you need to take the right approach.

Again, yes, I agree.

Great! As a gift, I’ll give you free access to this VIP, inner circle, elite, super special, rare, valuable wait-listed webinar.

Even though you weren’t looking for it, you’re now intrigued to see how they might help. You enter their web, the world of training funnels, daily emails, and an “all or nothing” or “I don’t want to talk to you unless you are fully committed” ultimatum. …


Patience grasshopper, you need to know a few things first.

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A negative thought is like a freight train.

As much as we’d love to click our fingers and *poof* see that bad mood turn into a fluffy white cloud, a magic boost of motivation or happiness, that’s just not how our brains work.

But even the biggest, behemoth freighters of negative thought can be redirected and rerouted with the right approach.

It’s the people who can get through cancer, who can push through Hell Week to become a US Marine or who can build a successful corporation who have figured out how to do this. …

About

Daina Hazel

I won’t fix all of your problems, but I’ll change your thinking so that you can. Psychotherapist, Hypnotherapist, Lawyer. Reach out@ info@dainahazel.com

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