Ball Gags 101: The Ultimate Guide To BDSM Gag & Bondage Play

Ball gags… 🔮

You've seen them around in BDSM kinky play and wondered what's the appeal? 🏀

Why people use it? 🏈

If you would want to try it how to pick the best ball gag…or other type of gag from all the available choices? 🎈

How do you incorporate it safely in your sexual play? ❤️

All great questions!

When you're done reading you'll have all the answers!


Here's how the guide is organised:

  • Why Ball Gags Are So Popular In BDSM Play?
  • How Do You Pick The Right Ball Gag For You?
  • What Are The Best Ball Gags & Other Types Available?
  • What's Other People Experience & Tips With Using Ball Gags?

Oh, and know that I'll review not only ball gags, but also give insights on spider gags, open mouth gags, pacifier gags and bit gags. ⚠️

Let's jump in!:


Why Ball Gags Are So Popular In BDSM Play?

I mean, what's the appeal there?

Well, ball gags take part of bondage, restraint BDSM play.

It's both restrictive (you cannot close the mouth), which increases the sense of helplessness.

It does feel kind of humiliating at the same time.

Ball gag also looks badass visually.

Ball gags also prevent the victim from talking, but it doesn't stop the screaming or moaning.

Some people love it, for some it does nothing.

But gags are an irreplaceable part of domination/submission play.


“Ball gags an be a lot of fun for bondage play — not only immobilize but also silence them.

Moaning through a ball gag can be real sexy.

Just get the decent ones that aren’t made of rubber unless you’re into the taste and feel of rubber.

Also useful for dates that have a cute body but just shouldn’t open their mouth (unless there’s something in it).”

Source: biggguy


Here's Wikipedia's definition of BDSM gags:

“A gag is a device sometimes worn during sexual bondage and BDSM role play.
Gags are usually associated with role plays involving bondage, but that is not necessarily the case.
The person who wears the gag is regarded as the submissive partner, while the other is regarded as the dominant one.”

How Do You Pick The Right Ball Gag For You?

Why ball gags at all?

Why not use a piece of clothing or use her panties?

The reason why ball gags are so popular is the fact that they are very safe.

Soft things could go back into the throat…

A ball — not likely.


What material ball gag should be from?

As for materials: the best and safest material is a high quality silicone ball.

It is squishy and it's comfortable for long wear.

If it tastes weird or smells weird send it back, you've got a bad quality toy :(

Another thing to look out for are holes for breathing. They just make experience more pleasant.


How to decide on the right ball gag size?

Having it be comfortable is super important.

Your options are going to be:

  • 1 1/2" (Small)
  • 1 3/4" (Medium-small)
  • 1 7/8" (Medium)
  • 2" (Medium-large)
  • 2 1/8" (Large)
  • 2 1/4" (Extra Large)

Opt out for smaller at first or even better go for a bit gag if you're a beginner.

Round balls do make jaw hurt after a while.

The other option is inflatable gag as you can control the size with it.

That looks a bit too big size ;)

Picking the strap: What material? Does It Need To Lock?

Now: what kind of look are you interested in?

Is it leather?? Or rubber?

Leather looks better, but rubber strap won't get soggy and chaff.

Rubber strap will clean better and dry faster.

Does the gag need to come with a key for ultimate restraint and submission?

Are you looking for a combo option? Some ball gags come together with nipple clamps or hand restraints.

Finally check this super helpful video to see visually how gags look like and what to watch out for:


Think about these questions as you scroll through the best ball gag options out there…

But definitely check the reviews and don't get super cheap options. Ball gags are already pretty cheap..!

You gonna put it in your mouth, it must be good quality unless you want your lips to swell up like melons.


What Are The Best Ball Gags & Other Types Of Gags Available?


Strict Leather Silicone Bit Gag ($24.02)

For beginners I would really recommend bit gag as it is gentler to the jaw.

Or just go with inflatable gag, but those are a bit more expensive.

The bit gag feels nice in the mouth and easy on the teeth and you could still push it out with your tongue if you really wanted.

In BDSM people usually use this kind of bit gag to prevent teeth grinding during tough punishment scenes.

Find it on Amazon here.

CalExotics Scandal Ball Gag ($17.65)

This Scandal ball gag is elegant looking and the ball is medium size.

It's easy to adjust the strap since it's a fabric — overall a great elegant option…

You can choose either a ball gag or bit gag, which is recommended for beginners.

This looks like 50 Shades of Grey type of elegant ball gag :)

Additionally you could mix it together with collar and leash… and this blindfold, which can be used for both sex and as an elegant sleep max.

A high quality item — ball is made from hypoallergenic silicone.

Find it on Amazon here.

Pipedream Silicone Breathable Ball Gag ($19.62)

This is another great beginner's ball gag which is a small size and has holes in it for easier breathing.

It's great that straps and the gag are from ultra-hygienic medical grade silicone.

Find it on Amazon here.

Utimi Ball Gag With Lock and Nipple Clamps ($9.89)

Okay, this one is definitely for advanced users.

Ball itself is 1.9" which is a medium size.

It's made from medical grade, odourless and safe silicone material.

The nipple clamps have adjustable intensity and lock adds a nice domination/submissive touch.

It's impressive piece for the price.

I was suspicious at start, but reviews are great.

Find it on Amazon here.

Silicone Ball Gag With Chained Nipple Clamps ($12.99)

This is a very similar model to previous one, with few subtle and useful adjustments.

With Utimi there is only one model — one size.

With this one you can choose between 5 color combinations — ball itself comes in red, pink or black color.

Strap comes in black or black with hearts.

And the best thing is that you can choose between two size of balls: 1.67" or 2" .

Find it on Amazon here.

Inflatable Mouth Gag & Mask ($35.99)

This mouth gag is made from a mix of leather and medical grade silicone triangle shaped mouth gag.

It also has a space for a lock if you want to use that.

The gag can be inflated to a large size and this is very high quality piece of work.

Find it on Amazon here.

Inflatable Penis Gag ($47.23)

If you want to go fancy and don't want to drool because of the ball then this is the most comfortable penis gag yo'll find.

Firstly, it looks great.

Secondly. it's made from high quality silicone which is easy to clean and you can control how much you pump the toy to ensure it doesn't hurt the jaw.

Find it on Amazon here.

Open Mouth Gag ($4.98)

If you're looking for something gentler…or something that would let you stick the tongue out and stick something in…

You might be looking for this o ring gag.

The trouble with these items though is that you gotta get the size right.

This is a big bigger O-ring which will allow for tongue sticking and penis sticking… But for some it's too big.

If you have smaller mouth then go for this open mouth gag instead.

But it's a great, cheap option for beginners to get introduced to the world of gags.

Find on Amazon here.

Open Mouth Spider Gag ($10.55)

If you're looking for more extreme experience, this gag with spider legs will prevent the mouth from closing at all.

Obviously it's quite rough and made from steel, so definitely not for beginners.

The only downside is that this is one size fits all and some people remember that the o ring is too small or doesn't fit perfectly.

Check the measurements and decide if 1.5" ring is good for you.

It can be tons of fun though.

Find it on Amazon here.

DDLG Style Pacifier Gag ($14.90)

If you're into kinky DDLG roleplay you'll love this playful pacifier gag.

It's almost too cute to be intimidating, but I guess that's the point.

Will still do the job..!

The pacifier is high quality and you can pick between 5 colors.

It's well constructed and if you're into DDLG play, it will be tons of fun.

Find it on Amazon here.

Ball Gag With Bondage Kit ($11.99)

You may also like a combo kit like this.

It's pretty fun how you can dominate your submissive with a ball gag, collar and leather handcuffs — pretty badass huh?

You can use handcuffs as bed restraints separately from ball gag too (hint, hint.)

The only warning is to thoroughly wash the ball gag before using.

It's made from superior fiber material that some people say has some weird taste that goes away after thorough cleaning.

Find it on Amazon here.

What’s Other People Experience & Tips With Using Ball Gags?

Now to add some perspective I've asked and collected other people best tips and advice regarding purchasing and using ball gags.

Hope it helps:


“My jaw is sore after using ball gag? Is it how gags work?”

“Your natural position for your mouth muscles are to be closed.

You had them forced open for an extended period of time which flexed the muscles.

It’s a full extension of the muscles as opposed to talking where you move them back and forth so you probably will wear your facial muscles out by holding that extension for an long period of time.

Like any muscle extension, soreness only lasts temporarily. If you use the muscles more frequently, the soreness becomes less and less over time.

Meaning… Use the ball gag more frequently and you’ll get used to it.

There’s the phrase “use it or lose it” that goes with body building.

It’s applicable here as well and it applies to any function of sex that uses the body and it’s a good reason to mix it up every once in awhile so nothing comes away sore the next day.”

Source: altaccountthree


“You can wear the ball between your teeth, which stretches your jaw muscles more than having it just behind your teeth or farther back in your mouth.”

“If it keeps being sore, you might try a smaller ball.

Just be sure you can always breathe easily (some have breathing holes built in) and don’t get it so far back in your mouth that you feel a gag reflex coming on (despite the name ball gag).

Gagging can lead to vomiting which will be dangerous if you inhale it behind the gag.

Also have a safe word or safe motion (like three hand taps or slaps or something your partner will instantly recognise), that means STOP.”

Source: Ericmacson


“I’ll just chime in with general advice for ball gags.”

“Some things you can get for cheap.

Dollar/hardware stores are the best sex boutiques around for creative minds.

Other things though, perhaps not.

When I started kitting out and before I knew much about anything, I went to sex shops and bought overpriced cheap-ass crap which all got thrown out as I gained experience.

One thing I’d suggest: when you’re buying an accessory that will be in your toybox for years, spending an extra bit of cash on known quality, either from a trusted artisan or retailer, is going to pay off many times over.

If you can get good deals by shopping around (e.g. Amazon), great.

It’s just not always a good idea to be too price-sensitive when you’re buying certain items (insertables, gags, whips, etc.).”

Source: GargoyleToes


“My Dom husband and I love gags of all varieties.”

“We have many ball gags in different styles and sizes.

I prefer the rubber ball type that goes behind the teeth and fills the mouth.

The largest we have is two inches and is a seriously painful gag stretching the jaw but awesome.

Single straps are good but then he likes to make then really tight.

The chin strap one stops the ability to open the jaw wider and push the ball out with tongue.

The head harness keeps the gag firmly in place and is a great anchor for other bondage positions because many have a ring on the apex.

I like how my jaw aches and hurts to chew or close after use. How the next day the ache reminds you of the day before.

I am not keen in the plastic balls with hole because they are not as pliant as silicone or rubber.

Though they do produce lots of spit from the sub.

I love panel gags too for the double use of ball gag and muffled mouth covering of the panel. “

Source: FlirtyCrazyKinky


“I prefer the whiffle-ball style as it allows solid breathing during vigorous activities and the straight rubber bar (sometimes called a “bit gag”) otherwise. “

“My pet doesn’t have any issues with weird sinuses, but sometimes when allergy season is high, breathing through the nose is tricky and I wouldn’t want to quit fun time activities just because of stuffed up noses.

The chin straps and over head straps are stricter, but not always practical, especially if you’re using a solid rubber ball gag.

If you’re finding that a plain gag slips, chin straps don’t do much on their own and a full head harness is going to be my recommendation.

I prefer rubber/silicone since it’s less likely to cause damage to teeth and safer for slapping, but whiffle ball style plastic balls are also pretty tooth and slap friendly.”

Source: ladygraeme


“In terms of actual application as a gag, I don’t think style matters that much.”

“The look for you and the feel for the sub can change a bit.

The chin strap will keep the ball against the lower jaw which can make it harder to spit out.

But it’s mostly psychology in my opinion.

The harness feels more restrictive and depending on how the face straps run they can be an additional reminder as they’re always in view. Also the extra straps allow for more attachment points.

I think the most important part of a ball gag is the size of the ball.

Too small and it’s silly, too large and it either can’t be worn at all or becomes painful very quickly.”

Source: frankenduke


Bringing It All Together

It's been a journey, huh?

But now I think you know perfectly the attraction of ball gags, as well as which one to pick for yourself, right?

Just be careful with the size of the ball if you're new..!

Get a rubber strap if you want the ease of cleaning…

And have fun…! :)

Read this Shibari Japanese bondage guide as the next step towards your BDSM journey…

Ropes and ball gags go very well together, don't you think? 😎