DeepThroat 101: How To Deep Throat & Get Rid of Gag Reflex

Ahh…deepthroating…👅

🔞 Porn movies have really popularised this kind of blowjob…

And guys love the girls who can do it… 👌

…the same way you love a guy who knows how eat your pussy…👄

Now you want to learn how to do it?

But don't know if you can?

🤮You constantly gag up when attempting deepthroat?

And wonder if you can EVER get rid of gag reflex? 👓

Yes, you can! 😲

There are tons of tricks…and it will take some practice, but:

EVERYONE CAN LEARN HOW TO DEEP THROAT! 😮

Where is the will, there is a way…

And this guide will give you a way…


Here's how this guide is organised:

  • #1 — What Does It Mean To Deepthroat?
  • #2 — Deepthroat Training: 6 Tips How To Practice DeepThroat By Yourself & With A Partner
  • #3 — Other People Best Deep Throating Tips & Positions To Stop The Gag Reflex
  • #4 — Question To Girls: Do You Like Giving Deepthroat?

Sounds good? 👍

Be ready to take some notes…

Let's jump in:


#1 — What Does It Mean To Deepthroat?

The definition comes first… what qualifies as deep throating?

It's a form of fellatio (sucking dick) where a girl takes guy's penis fully in her mouth usually causing her to gag.

Here’s Wikipedia’s definition:

“Deep-throating is a sexual act in which a person takes a partner’s entire erect penis deep into the mouth and throat.”

An experienced girl can even swallow the penis and get past the gagging reflex giving a guy very unique and deeply filling sensations.

Giving a deep throat could be considered as equivalent to a guy giving a girl out-of-the-world orgasmic cunnilingus (pussy eating) or G-spot stimulation leading to squirting orgasm.

Deepthroating is considered more extreme BDSM type of sexual act…

But then again, even anal sex to some is considered extreme.

Truth is, when done right — it's both safe and enjoyable for a girl and mind-blowing for a guy.

Once you read through the tips and other lady experiences you'll know it's nothing scary and very doable with practice:


#2 — Deepthroat Training: 6 Tips How To Practice Deep Throating

Okay, now to the good stuff…

How do you actually do it?

Before we start, let me just say:

Take it slow, be patient and careful…

You don't want to hurt yourself of worse yet push yourself too far with gagging reflex and vomit.

It does take practice and time.

You also need to train your throat to get used to the sensations.

This is an advanced technique and you should learn how to give a simple blowjob first before attempting something like this.


#2.1—Get Something To Practice With

If you have a willing partner — great!

If you show enthusiasm when giving him a blowjob he’ll love to provide you all the training you want!

But still it will take a lot of time…and maybe he won't be able to stay erect through all of it.

Especially when you don't know what you're doing yet.

Up to you, but getting a dildo to practice with can come in handy.

You need something that would mimic the feel of the real dick (not too hard though).

The best tool is a jelly type dildo with a suction cup.

Jelly is softer than silicone and will be very similar to real erect (but not rock-hard) penis that you'll need to deepthroat.

This is a popular dildo from Doc Johnson (8.6" long and 2" wide) for $19.50 that will serve the purpose well:

Find it on Amazon here.

Suction cup is great because it lets you attach the dildo to the wall giving you both hands free.

If you don't need suction cup, this is another 10" dildo option ($16.36) to practice with:

Find it on Amazon here.

You can also use something like a banana, but make sure there is no chance for the item to break off and actually choke you in the throat.

So don't peel the banana and put a condom on top of it.

Lastly, you'll need a lube.

It's very important your throat and the penis, dildo, banana is well lubricated for easy sliding.

Saliva is cool, but it will take some time to build it up…

A flavored water-based lube is safe and tasty. Like this $10 strawberry lube for example:

Find it on Amazon here.

#2.2— Know The Anatomy Of The Throat

The most important part about the throat that you need to know is uvula.

Uvula is that little dangling skinny thing down from the top of your throat.

You can see it if you open your mouth wide and stare in the mirror.

Uvula is the main reason that triggers the gag reflex for most people.

There are also tonsils on the sides that cause the gagging for some, but they are removed for many people.

After you get past the uvula there is almost 90 degree turn which leads to the throat, (its called pharynx in the picture).

If you're worried about the penis going into the wrong pipe — don't. Because as you swallow the other pipe will close (epiglottis in the picture).

It's safe.

As for different penis sizes.

You don't really need to worry about the length of the penis — you can take pretty much any length with enough practice.

However you cannot change how big your throat is.

If your partner has girthy (wide) penis and you cannot get it past the back teeth… it means that your throat is simply smaller and no amount of training will make it bigger.

You can test this by buying less girthy dildo and see how far you can get it… vs your partners bigger penis.

In that case, your best option is to simply cheat and refer to the point #5.


#2.3 — How To Get Rid Of Gag Reflex

The most universal tip that simply works to stop the gag reflex is this:(even though nobody really knows why):

Make a fist with your left hand.
Put your thumb inside your fist and squeeze it hard.
Take the finger on your right hand and stick it as far down your throat as possible (or dildo..whatever is your training object)
You will realise you have no gag reflex anymore.

This works for at least 80% of people who try it.

But it helps to understand how gag reflex works…

Here's Wikipedia's explanation:

“The pharyngeal reflex or gag reflex is a reflex contraction of the back of the throat, evoked by touching the roof of the mouth, the back of the tongue, the area around the tonsils, the uvula, and the back of the throat.
It, along with other aerodigestive reflexes such as reflexive pharyngeal swallowing, prevents objects in the oral cavity from entering the throat except as part of normal swallowing and helps prevent choking.”

But besides the first tip you can train your throat to be less sensitive to gagging.

Its just a matter of practice.

The more your throat gets exposed to having something close or in the throat, the better it will get.

For some people gagging is caused by the smell. That's why it's important that guy has taken fresh shower or you've gotten a nice smelling and tasting lube.

Some people like to use a throat numbing spray, but FDA warns against risks of using it.


#2.4 — Relax, Breathe & Get Exposed More To Gag Reflex

If you're tense and don't breathe your throat will naturally tighten up.

But if you take it slow, relax your throat and breathe through the nose you'll improve quickly.

Breathing really helps to suppress the gag reflex.

Other than that… there is really no other tricks than simply practice.

Getting rid of gag reflex is all about exposing your throat to the feeling as much as possible…

Then you will get used to the feeling of gag reflex, learn to deal with it and recover quickly.

Eventually you'll learn to suppress the reflex at all and learn how to anticipate gagging and back off until reflex goes away.


Pro tip: Brush the back of your tongue with toothbrush when brushing your teeth.
Do it every day and it will help to train and understand your gag reflex.
Tooth brushing is a nice trigger event that will help you not to forget the routine.

#2.5— Angle & Position Is Extremely Important

Yes, so you also need to take in account the angle and shape of your guy's penis.

Then you need to make sure that it is as easy as possible for the penis and your throat to make that U turn.

You can do that by shifting your head and exhaling as you take it in.

What helps to many people is sticking their tongue out as far as possible while lifting the chin to make the U turn as straight as possible.

You can also look up how sword swallowers do it…

It's pretty much the same challenge:

Here's a helpful video you can watch:


#2.6— If His Penis Is Too Big — Use Help & Cheat A Bit

This is a great way to cheat if you're a beginner at giving blowjobs.

There are two ways:

  • use your hands
  • use a Fleshlight quickshot

There is no reason you should fully deepthroat his penis all in your mouth.

Yes, it's super sexy if you can, but the sensations will be very similar if you use one hand to grab and squeeze his penis and then take the rest of it in your mouth.

You can fake it a bit and make some gulping, gasping sounds making it look harder than it is.

Yeah, it works!

Guys won't feel the difference, but will appreciate and find your hard struggling sexy.

Just make sure there is tons of saliva everywhere, let it drool of your hands, his cock and balls — it will make the whole experience better.

You can always use a lube with a flavor (strawberry, anyone?) if you need more lubrication and better taste!

Find it on Amazon here.

Use Fleshlight Quickshot

Yeah, there are super nice sex toys also for guys.

Quickshot is cheaper version of Fleshlight ( $34.95) which mimics the blowjob experience with its texture inside it.

Find it on Amazon here.

The same way guys use vibrators or G-spot dildos to cheat, you can do the same thing.

You can still suck the head of his penis, but let the Quickshot do the hard job :)

Do it with enthusiasm and he'll love it!

This will only add extra shade to your blowjob arsenal until you master the deep throating techniques.


#3 — Other People Best Deep Throating Tips & Positions To Stop The Gag Reflex

This is the best part because…

Everyone is different and while the best universal tips were covered in previous deepthroat training section…

Now you'll hear many other people tips and stories of what's working for them.

That's a wealth of knowledge!

Do try them: something WILL work for you!


Here's a great video by Evie Lupine going deep (pun intended) on how to do deepthroating:


“Best Advice If You Have Trouble Deepthroating”

“I’ve always loved the idea of giving blowjobs.

Recently I started seeing someone I’m so attracted to that I enjoyed giving them, too.

Great!

But I could barely fit half of it into my mouth without gagging and involuntarily stopping the whole thing for like twenty seconds.

Today that all changed.

Today, I discovered the trick of sticking out your tongue really far and keeping it stuck out before you put the penis in your mouth.

I thought that was something porn stars did to lick the balls all fancily (which is admittedly why I did it), but it’s not just that.

It makes it SO MUCH EASIER TO DEEPTHROAT.

I was able to go all the way down, albeit only for a second, and while I gagged I was able to continue without stopping while deepthroating frequently.

When I tried doing it without the tongue thing again, I found it just as difficult as normal.

I think the reason I find it easier is that it makes my mouth smaller in a way and makes it so there’s only one “path” for the cock, it just slides into my throat.

I think one of my problems before was that I would subconsciously block my throat with my tongue.”

Source: suave_historian


“If you want to deepthroat without gagging get extremely turned on for him.”

“As someone who used to have difficulties in the deep throat department and who also worked at an adult store for 5 years, I’m happy to share what works for me and some friends.

First of all, I recommend getting extremely turned on for him.

If you play with him first and slowly slide him into your mouth, going just a little deeper each time, this will help you warm up to deep throating.

I find it particularly helpful to use one hand to hold the base of his cock so I can control the angle at which he enters my mouth.

I also like to gently stroke the base to give him the feeling that he’s actually deeper in me, as I’m warming up.

Once I feel extremely turned on, to the point where I want to just throw him down and have sex with him, I am able to deep throat him.

I slide him slowly down by throat, then when it feels like I’ve hit a wall, I breathe out my nose, relax my throat completely, get a nice grip on him somewhere (ass, hips, upper thighs), and push him in deep…

I guess what I’m saying is, for me and a lot of others, it’s all about the mindset.

I have to want it wayyy down my throat to get it there.

Sidenote: clean balls are also important as smells can also trigger a gag reflex.
In this case, I’d recommend a flavored lube as a way to make the experience more enjoyable for you.
Hot + sexy warming lube, cherry flavor is my personal favorite.”
Find it on Amazon here.

Source: yumiyums


“The Best Position For Deep Throating?”

“I’ve had the most success with a 69-like position, for me I prefer my bum off to one side instead of straddling him.

Sometimes he’ll touch me and get me off too, but I can relax and deepthroat much better if he doesn’t.

But it’s a good position for him to touch you or get you off if he’d like.

It’s really easy for me to relax my jaw and throat cause I feel so comfortable.

That over the bed thing is sooooo uncomfortable for me I just can’t do it with balls resting on my nose, or me slipping and sliding and inching off the bed slowly.”

Source: JunahCg


“How do you control the saliva while rapidly deepthroating?”

“Quick answer: Exhale hard and let it dribble out everywhere.

They do this in porn all the time during deep throating scenes. Your guy will think it’s hot.

Long answer:

I deepthroat all the time, and as long as I’m set up right, I rarely over salivate.

The keys:

  • be in the right position, and warmed up. If I’m in my knees, no worries. If I’m hanging my head off the bed, I’m going to get drooly. Also, if he’s pushing me immediately, I’m going to make mad saliva; I need the first few minutes at my own pace to stretch my throat and get that good deep spit going.
  • helps to be a little dehydrated or cotton mouth.
  • I, at least, need to not be merely ‘opening my mouth really big’, but ‘relaxing my jaw hinge and my whole throat’. That lets me not engage those back salivary glands that are making the spit that’s being the problem.
  • he needs to be thrusting into your actual throat, not the back of your mouth/tonsils. If he’s hitting your soft palette or uvula, you’re going to react by producing lots of spit.”

Source: Jitzgrrl


“Deep Throat Training Tips”

“You’re obviously aware that head position matters.

Off the side of the bed works well.

Looking up from a kneeling position provides a pretty straight path too.

Now with a larger guy there’s a few things besides head position that help me and I’m quite petite and rarely can’t manage the whole thing.

First is to stick my tongue out (bonus points that you can sort of lick the base of the guy’s penis then which they seem to like…)

Second, is to swallow, literally swallow, as I take him down my throat.

This helps suppress my gag reflex a bit and helps me to work him in. Apparently it feels kind of cool for the guy too.

Finally, I squeeze my thumb in my fist really hard.

Bizarre I know but it distracts me somehow and suppresses my gag reflex.”

Source: yesmissy


“Facefucking is a nice, lazy method to relax for deepthroating.”

“I enjoy deep throating, but find it hard to relax my throat sometimes and just end up gagging.

It’s easier when I’m in a 69 position with me on top.

The curve of the cock allows for easier manoeuvrability in this position.

Also, it may sound a bit lazy…

But my favorite method of blow job is just to hold still and let him thrust as he wishes.

Seems to me men enjoy being able to “fuck my face” at their own speed.

And my obsequious little self is here to please.”

Source: hoist_game_join_in


“2 Basic & 2 Advanced Deep throating tips”

Your mileage may vary but these are the two biggest tricks that work for me:

  1. Put your thumb in your fist and squeeze really really hard while you go down and try to take the whole thing. Something about the distraction of squeezing your thumb makes you forget about the whole choking thing. This was a big one for me, especially at first, though its become less necessary over time.
  2. Position definitely matters especially if he isn’t flexible while hard. Any position that results in a fairly straight path from your mouth to your throat can be helpful.

More advanced:

  1. Actually swallow when it’s in there. Something about doing that helps me get it all the way in there and I can even sort of keep swallowing with it in there which I’m told feels pretty awesome.
  2. I know some girls don’t like it, but having him sort of help force me down on him can be helpful too, though it does take a lot of trust.

Source: yesmissy


“I don’t deepthroat, but what helped me learn to love giving blowjobs…”

“Is I stopped to believe that I had to have no gag reflex or be able to DT or anything else before I could be good at it.

I just learned to work on what I was able to do, and grow confident in that instead of believing there was some holy grail or else I was pitiful.

You cannot enjoy anything if you place some ideal on it that you aren’t capable of.

So my advice is, do what you do, and work on using hands and other things and having FUN while you do it.

Over time, you will improve period and learn how to prevent your self from gagging more and get better.

Maybe you will learn to deep throat or maybe not, but that doesn’t mean you can’t love it anyway and be GREAT at it.

Try not to be so hard on yourself.

And just remember that the sexiest things in general to most hetero men (and perhaps most PEOPLE) is that you feel confident AND enthusiastic.”

Source: whiskey_pants


“Deep throating or taking a penis all the way down your throat is a process and has to be taken step by step. “

First, you have to consider the curve of the penis.

  • Does your partner’s penis curve upward?
  • downward?
  • on the side?

You want the curve to align with your throat so that it isn’t curving towards the top of your throat.

This way you can reduce your gag reflex. 😫

You also have to make sure the penis has been throughly lubricated by your own saliva.

Use your hands as you perform the blow job.

Making sure your hands move in the same motion as your mouth.

Every time you go down go down a little further.

Keep your mouth open so that air escapes and isn’t trapped in your mouth as you go up and down.

It can create a suction that feels good for your partner, but not good for you when you want to deep throat.

The suction in your mouth could cause you to gag.

🖕 Side Note: You can create a suction either by wrapping your lips around his penis when it has filled your mouth cavity and pulling away from his 🍆 without letting it exit.
Or you can take his penis in your mouth, wrap your lips around his cock, and suck all the air out.

The latter way will cause you to exhale quicker than the first method.

When you go down and take more of his cock make sure your tongue is out of your mouth as well.

  • You want to make a clear path for the penis.
  • Go as far down as you can.
  • Every time go a little father. -
  • Use your hands as an extension of your mouth. -
  • Once you get it down to where you want wait a second or two before retreating.
  • You want to get your throat used to the feeling so you don’t gag as much.
🥇 The number one thing you have to make sure is that you need to remain in control the whole time.

He might get excited and push your head down or jerk to move his dick further down.

This is where hands become very important.”

Source: soup_d_up


“Do You Always Get A Sore Throat After Deep Throating?”

This is a very common question and here are several answers:

  • “Yeah, I get a sore throat but not as bad as if I was sick with a cold, it’s just tender. The discomfort from it is no where near enough to make me want to stop doing it.” — Bananabiccies
  • “I wouldn’t say “sore throat”, just kinda tender the next day so you can still feel you did it? Just part of the fun like getting a mild hangover.” — SentimentalSinz
  • “I just started being able to deepthroat but yes, a sore throat happened each time afterwards. The first sore throat hurt the most, it’s less and less each time.” — Shyness11
  • It’s common to be able to feel something after deepthroat. But some soreness in the pussy, thighs, and abs can happen after the intercourse too depending on how we’re doing it. It’s not a big deal, imo. The bigger and rougher you are and the longer we do it the more I’m going to feel it afterward.” — voxfemme

So yes, it's common, but the more you do it, the better it gets… :)

The same way a man gets a tired jaw after intense pussy eating and G-spot stimulation… this is equivalent for ladies.


“Girls, Do You Like Giving Deepthroat?”

I've collected three different responses:

  • one who loves it
  • other lady taking a medium stance
  • thirdly, the lady who doesn't like it, but explains what she does instead

It's up to you to figure out whether you like it or not…

Whether you're willing to practice to stop the gagging reflex and learn to enjoy it…

While everyone is different… Nobody was born deepthroating expert.

Its a learnable skill.


“I love deepthroating.”

I LOVE it.

But I’m pretty orally fixated.

I wouldn’t be with a guy that either didn’t appreciate my oral skills or didn’t allow me to deep throat him.

I crave the full sensation of my man’s cock deep in my throat and find it extremely pleasurable.

There’s all kinds of porn out there.

There’s porn with deep throating that’s not abusive.

You get what you look for.

I’ve never had a man that’s been abusive to me while I was deep throating him, only affectionate and passionate.

source: kachapati


“Some people can do it, some people can’t. “

“I took to it right away.

My gag reflex is gone.

Deep throat-ing doesn’t have to be abusive but that makes it much more fun.

Especially if another guy is fucking my ass while my face is getting fucked.

Oh sorry anyway… The only time deep-throating can be a problem is if the cock is not long enough.

And instead of going down my throat it just hits the back of it.”

Source: Anonymous


“I personally don’t like deepthroating because it makes me choke!!”

“Some women do though.

The important thing with any sexual act is that it is consensual — if one party feels uncomfy with it then you shouldn’t do it.

Having said that, I think that people need to realize that porn is a fantasy and is mean to look good, not feel good.

Some people like porn style sex but lots of ppl don’t an it’s important to realize that the example of the sexual act as portrayed in porn is NOT the only way to engage in sex.

I happen to be a fan of good, frequent sex and I don’t really like porn type sex.

However I really love giving my boyfriend oral sex!!

Its fun and it turns me on.

I find that I can give a good blow job without using deepthroating.”

Source: katethefabulous


Bringing It All Together

That's it…!

You can do it!

Practice, take it slow, show enthusiasm and you'll get there :)

Hope this was helpful and do share your positive experience or best tips!

Cheers 🍷