Dildos 101: The Ultimate Guide To Finding The Best Dildo For You

If vibrators started the sexual pleasure game in modern times… 👠

The history of women using dildos dates back to 13-19.000 thousand years ago according to Wikipedia. 🐯

This is all great, but it also means that in current times the dildo market is more complicated than ever!

There are different materials, sizes, vibrating dildos…

There are dildos that focus on G-spot, beaded dildos, animal type dildos…

With suction cup, no cup, with vibrating modes or no vibrating modes…

It's freaking complicated! 💥

But not to worry!

After you're done with this guide, you will not only know what is the best dildo for you…

You'll have full knowledge of the pros and cons of each choice.

You'll make an informed decision!

Sounds good?


Here's how the article is organized:

  • 5 Things To Watch Out For When Choosing The Right Dildo For You
  • Classic, Realistic Dildos: Best For Beginners
  • Vibrating, Thrusting, Multi-Pleasure dildos
  • G-spot Dildos & Beaded Dildos
  • Huge Dildos (For Filling sensations)

The first section focuses on explaining the world of dildos.

The Second section categorizes different dildos and showcases the best dildos based on size, price, functionality.

I try to include always three choices — low-tier, medium, advanced/luxury dildo.


6 Things To Watch Out For When Choosing The Right Dildo For You

You want to make the right choice with the first purchase right?

Yeah, that's what I want for you too.

That's why this introduction is CRUCIAL! Don't skip it!


#1 — Pick The Best Type of Material Dildo For You

You should be cautious of what you're putting inside of you.

The best quick answer: Silicone is the safest option.

Avoid anything that has jelly, rubber, cyberskin, PVC materials…

Usually, you'll find that the cheapest dildos make these shortcuts — that's why they are so cheap.

These materials will smell weird and some have phthalates in them, which is not good for your body.

Plus the worst thing is that these are porous materials which means they cannot be shared or fully sanitized.

Yes, some people will use a condom on top of the jelly toy, but frankly, — better don't go there unless you absolutely must.

The materials you should look at favorably:

  • silicone — they are easiest to clean and if you enjoy soft/flexible kind of dildo, that's what silicone has. They come in various densities from soft, firm and very squishy.
  • Glass, metal, porcelain — if you like rock hard kind of pressure (usually for the G-spot stimulation), look for those materials.

There are still some issues you can run into if the toy is made from cheap glass or metal — so read the reviews.

Silicone is the safest, but if you're buying from an unknown brand, make sure it's 100% silicone.


#2 — Watch Out For Extra Functionality You Might Want

Okay, now let's move to more practical questions.

There are tons of multi-purpose dildos, like rabbit vibrators, that stimulate both vaginally and clitorally at the same time.

What is the functionality you can expect?:

  • suction cup for a hands-free experience
  • thrusting, vibrating or rotating dildo
  • Specially angled G-spot or beaded dildo
  • squirting dildos — yes, you can insert the liquid in other end and get squirting/ejaculation experience too!
  • Strapless strapon dildo (for a lady to use to fuck someone else)
  • Different sizes, shapes like horse dildo, dog dildo, Bad dragon dildos.

Dildos with Suction Cup

For practical reasons I really recommend you find a dildo with a suction cup or at least a bigger core at the end of the dildo.

The bigger base will mean that you won't accidentally lose it and a suction cup means that you could attach it to the floor, chair or even wall (for doggy style).

You can get both 100% hands-on and 100% hands-free experience with this functionality.

This is a great dildo for beginners.

Thrusting, Vibrating or Rotating Dildos

If you like anything with a motor there are really tons of options.

This example below has triple functionality and those rabbit vibrators definitely hold a very special place for advanced users.

We'll cover them later when taking a closer look at specific models.

The ultimate pleasure toy huh?

#3 — The Budget: You Get What You Pay For

Now the budget.

The easy answer is that you can find good, cheap silicone dildo for $10–20 with basic functionality.

Meaning — simple dildo with a suction cup.

If you want something more advanced with a motor on it, or something that's bigger than the average size you should expect to pay $50–100 for a good model.

Anything above $100 and you're paying for a luxury design or a brand (like Lelo).

Bad Dragon toys, for example, come from $50–200 and more depending on the size of the toy.

But with that kind of toy, you can create a custom-design dildo perfect for you.

So those are the options.


#4 — What Size & Girth You Like The Most?

Only you can answer this question.

Think back of the most pleasurable sexual experience and try to think what contributed to it?

If you don't know the size or girth you're looking for just take a ruler and measure carrots, cukini's, cucumbers.

Later when checking the specific dildos their sizing will mean a lot more to you.

Most women have reported to enjoy 7" to 8" length dildos.

Studies show that the average penis size for men is 5.1 to 5.6 inches (13 cm to 14.2 cm).

While it's not all about the size, still getting a bit bigger than average is advisable.

Plus, watch this video for more advice on choosing the right dildo size:

Remember, you control the movements anyway ;)

Other points to think about is how squishy, hard is the dildo.

Most women report to love:

  • when the head of the dildos is well defined and hard,
  • the shaft itself is nice and soft,
  • and the base is again hard and rigid

This kind of dildo would be defined as being close to the real thing as that's how men's penis feels like.


#5 — Are You Looking For A Realistic or Fantasy Type Huge Dildo?

Again this is the personal preference.

Just think about it.

Some women love dildo that mimics the real thing and find it arousing.

For other women the realistic look is actually intimidating and they look at how inviting, fun, interesting dildo looks like.

Plus, there is something appealing about the horse, dog, wolf's shaped dildo… It feels dirty and the idea of kinkiness that some wild animal is fucking you can be especially arousing.

If you're thinking about bigger size dildo, watch this video:

There are tons of people who love the dragon, fantasy type dildos, that are huge, uniquely shaped…

That's probably not for beginners, but plain vanilla dildo can get old… And that's when you start experimenting ;)

Bad Dragon dildos go pretty wild…and people love them!

#6 — How Easy It Is To Clean & Maintain the Dildo

This is more important when picking the material…

But know that glass/metal can be easily thrown in the washing machine.

But for the most toys, you'll need to find the right soap.

Usually, hand soaps or unscented dish soaps are all good for 100% silicone, metal or glass materials.

If there are no motors in the silicone toy you can boil them for 3–4 minutes to fully disinfect them.

With motors, you just need to stick to the soap and check if there are any special instructions for toy's maintenance.

If you want to be super safe, buy this Shibari antibacterial Toy cleaner.


Okay with introductions out of the way, let's go to the shop!

Here are the four sections we'll cover:

  • Classic, Realistic Dildos: Best For Beginners
  • G-spot Dildos & Beaded Dildos
  • Vibrating, Thrusting, Multi-Pleasure dildos
  • Huge Dildos (For Filling sensations)

In each section, you’ll get the most recommended options for Cheap/Medium-Tier/Luxury dildos so you can choose!


Classic, Realistic Dildos: Best For Beginners

Let's start basic!

You cannot go wrong with these choices..!


PaloQueth Realistic Dildo For Beginners ($12.69)

This dildo comes in three colors: realistic, black or pink.

It has 5.2 insertable inches with girth — 3.5 inches(average men penis size) and it has all the base features we talked about.

It has a harder head at the top, a strong suction cup and it's ultra-soft to touch in the middle. It's made from TPE silicone.

It has more than 1.300 positive reviews as a testament that it truly works for many women.

Find it on Amazon here.

Ultra Realistic 9" Dildo by Anfei ($35.63)

If you're looking for a realistic dildo, this comes the highest recommended.

It's the perfect softness and hardness, and yes, quite big.

If you want to have an even better experience, leave this dildo in very hot water for 10 minutes and you'll have a body-temperature dildo…!

There is a strong suction cup, insertable 6.32 inches, girth — 1.81" and it's made from FDA approved premium medical silicon.

Again… it's very realistic! Don't be scared ;)

Find it on Amazon here.

Vixen Vixskin Mustang Dildo Premium ($99.26)

Okay, now we're moving to the higher tier dildo…

This model has been the most recommended by men and women with unique tastes and Vixen Creations (together with Tantus) are the highest quality dildo brands out there.

It's made from soft Kindskin-textured safest, non-toxic 100% platinum silicone.

It's durable and will never break down or degrade. It also retains body heat and can easily be cleaned.

People have reported using this both for pegging, anal play as this model is harness compatible (and has a suction cup) for strapon, pegging play.

Find it on Amazon here.

G-spot Dildos & Beaded Dildos

These dildos are specially angled to hit the G-spot and beads provide simply unique sensations that some women love.

Usually, these toys will be hard, made from rigid silicone, glass or metal.

G-spot requires quite a strong treatment after all.


Prisms Glass G-spot Beaded Dildo ($22.08)

This model comes highly recommended by many happy users.

This is the toy you will use to make squirting reality and reach a lot more intense orgasms than with classical stimulation.

The only downside with glass is that you can drop it and break it, so be careful. It's hand-crafted and made from borosilicate glass.

You'll be able to use this dildo for both anal and vaginal stimulation.

Find it on Amazon here.

Glass Gem Curved G-spot Dildo ($25.29)

This is both beautiful and extremely practical G-spot dildo.

It's made from borosilicate glass, which is the same material used for medical and scientific glassware.

The handle is a great plus, that just makes the whole pleasuring process and makes hitting the spot so much easier.

Get this one and you will learn new things.

Find it on Amazon here.

Tantus Acute Silicone Dildo ($35.99)

Tantus makes high-quality dildos and this one is perfect for hitting the G-spot or male prostate.

This model has an option to be used with a harness for strap-on play, but it has no suction cup.

It’s a silicone dildo with insertable 4.8", girth 1.25".

It may be too small for advanced users, but great for beginners ;)

Find on Amazon here.

Njoy Pure G-spot Metal Wand ($85.99)

I'm not sure if this one qualifies as a dildo, but this metal wand has been responsible for more squirting orgasms than any other sex toy.

Guys use it for prostate massage and ladies for G-spot stimulation.

Many people report that this toy arches just the right way to reach orgasm while all the other toys didn't.

Yes, it's more expensive, but you'll use it forever.

The curve, the weight of this toy makes it super easy to focus on the pleasure and not to the process.

Find it on Amazon here.

Vibrating, Thrusting, Multi-Pleasure Dildos

Now onto the most exciting part!

These dildos are for professional pleasure seekers — they pack a serious punch…!

Get one of them if you love receiving both internal and external stimulation at the same time.

You can also always just get a dildo and buy a vibrator separately. Up to you.


PaloQueath G-Spot Rabbit Vibrator ($26.99)

This toy comes in a discreet box and is #1 best-seller in the category.

People love it — it hits all the right spots, it’s waterproof and will give 3 hours of play before recharging.

It has 9 vibration modes and a quiet motor. A great buy.

Find it on Amazon here.

360 Degree Rotating Rabbit Vibrator ($31.69)

This is another modification from rabbit vibrators.

If you want a dual stimulation — clit vibrator and thrusting vibrator at the same time — this is the toy.

This model comes with 7 different patterns and the shaft rotates at 3 different speeds. You can use only vibrations, only rotation or both at the same time.

It’s pretty impressive.

Find it on Amazon here.

Lelo Soraya Rabbit Vibrator ($159.51)

This is a beautiful piece from Lelo that comes in black, pink and violet colors.

The angle stimulates G-spot perfectly and the other rabbit head will take care of the clitoris.

100% waterproof, a wireless vibrator with 8 vibration patterns and adjustable speeds will get you orgasmically satisfied.

If you bought it and didn’t like it, you’re not using it correctly…! :)

Find it on Amazon here.

Huge Dildos (For Filling sensations)

Finally, let's look at the more extreme options!

Some people simply love something that's not real and intimidating…

And some just want to challenge themselves with a HUGE, GIANT dildo! :)


Realistic Dragon Dildo by LZYAA ($13.99)

This dragon dildo is made from body-safe silicone.

The material is soft, but firm and has a nice texture to it.

It comes with a handy suction cup that will hold quite a bit and definitely you need to work it up to fit it in.

Girth is the biggest factor as it’s not particularly long.

Find it on Amazon here.

#2 — Utimi Dragon Fantasy Dildo 7.1" ($24.99)

This one has super unique bumps and curves that will create intense sensations. Plus, the suction is incredibly strong.

The curve is made to really target the G-spot well.

The tip is very stimulating, the only complaint from others is that this dildo could be longer and girthier.

Find it here.

#3–9" Padgene Dragon Dildo ($26.99)

While only around 8" are insertable, the shape is great as it slowly gets bigger and the ribbed surface gives great sensations.

Find on Amazon here.

#4 — Giant Dragon Size Dildo Doc Johnson ($19.88)

This toy is made from a soft and flexible material which makes for a great fit.

It will take time to get it in, as it’s definitely not for beginners.

Very thick — 2.5", insertable length 6.5".

Find it here.

#5 — Romi Huge Horse Dildo ($28.98)

The size of this dildo is as it would a life-like horse have.

Insertable is 8.58", girth 2.44"

The material is solid and suction works well. Ribbed for pleasure.

And definitely not for beginners.

Find it on Amazon here.

#6 — The Cyclops Huge Dildo ($47.39)

This is a huge, dragon-sized dildo where 9" are insertable and it goes 3.25" in girth.

Something to be challenged with and the feelings are unique and orgasmic!

Find it here.

#7 — Romi Wolf Giant Dildo ($15.99)

The head of the dildo is shaped to target the G-spot.

It’s made from soft, elastic material, which can be bent to any angle you like.

Insertable size is 6.1", girth 1.6".

Find it here.

Huge Realistic Dildo (Forearm Size) ($46.16)

This one is definitely not for beginners, but if you’re looking for a monster dildo, you won’t be disappointed.

The size is 13" long, 2.85" in girth.

Find it on Amazon here.

Dragon Sized Giant Dildo LZYAA ($22.22)

The texture is not too soft, not too hard and it’s definitely not the biggest, but a really good size dildo to upgrade to!

Great for stretching…!

Find on Amazon.

Bringing It All Together

Now that's it..!

I told you! Now when you're done, you can be considered a pro and know the whole dildo market as your pocket!

Just start small, learn more about yourself and expand that sex toy box! :)

It's tons of fun… and it's amazing how after years when I was sure I know myself or my girl… I still discover new sensitive spots and new kinds of pleasures.

It's the best hobby every person can have!

Enjoy! 🍷

⭐ Dainis Graveris (SexualAlpha)

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