First Blowjob?: How to Give Him A Good Head Like A Pro

The truth is nobody is born natural at giving great oral sex — be it cunnilingus (eating her pussy) or fellatio ( blowjob). 👅

But a great blow-job is one of a kind experience. 🌶

If you do it right, it can be amazing foreplay, but do it wrong…

…and it will be incredible turn-off… 😑

I've been on the both sides of the coin.

But just know this, coming from a man:

No matter how great you are at giving head sometimes it's just not gonna work.

The same as you, ladies, get stressed, too much in your head.. It also happens to the guys.

With that being said…

Here in this guide I've collected my best advice and advice from countless men and women who've given and received blowjobs…😉

And they share what they wish they know before they gave their first blowjob…!

If nothing else, it's a ton of fun to read these stories… but I promise you'll learn a lot too!

I'm not pretending to be an expert, that's why I've collected as much various advice as I could.

Something will work for you!

At start there will be tons of blow job tips from various people and in the end I've included fun stories on people experiences…

So you know you don't need to get it perfect ;)

Sex needs to be fun!


The Best Blow Job Tips From Other Men & Women

To the good stuff now..

If I would need to describe it in one word though…

🥇 #1 Commandment?:

ENTHUSIASM 👍

Remember this and it will be 90% of the victory…

Here are other tips:


“It’s ok to be sloppy at first. Don’t go all out all at once. “

“Faster/harder doesn’t always mean better.

Don’t neglect the balls unless he doesn’t want them touched.”

Source: dark_lady42


“Enthusiasm and acting like i am poisoned and my guys cum is the antidote.”

“Moan, enjoy it, don’t use teeth, try deep throating here and there.”

“Lick it like a popsicle.


“Head down the shaft, press your tongue to the underside of his cock on the way back up and the swirl around the head of his cock and back down.”

“Lather rinse repeat.

It’s hard to get one fluid motion to begin with but works a charm. Have fun!”

Source: BleepBloopSplat


“Keep things wet. Saliva, lube, whatever.”

“Be dominant.

If you’re into face fucking/throat fucking then that’s different, but a basic blowjob?

OWN HIM. Take control.

Have him squirming and flailing like he’s trying to flag down a fire truck.

Make eye contact to tease him occasionally but focus on what you’re doing otherwise.

Use your tongue. Licking his head, shaft, and balls is a great tease.

Use your hands. Stroke his shaft while you suck him. Gently stroke and massage his balls.

Don’t be afraid to pull your mouth away and just use you hands for a little bit- but keep them wet.

Be noisy. Moan, slurp, gasp. Get into it.

Touch him other places. Run your hands across his thighs, stomach, chest and back to his cock while you work.

Let him feel your body against his legs and thighs.

Soft breasts and stiff nipples pressed against me or even just barely grazing me while she’s going at it seriously revs my engine.

Be creative and have fun!”

Source: D_Mon_Taurus


[Sexual Technique] Sloppy blowjobs

“I, female — love, love, LOVE giving head!

I practice different techniques regularly with my boyfriend.

Recently, I’ve been practicing “sloppy blowjobs” (lots of spitting, messy sounds, tons of moaning, rubbing his dick on any part of me, and complete and total enthusiasm)…

Basically just putting my own ideas of keeping my face clean out of my mind.

My man LOVES this!

Last night, I got so messy my hands actually pruned!!!!

I’ve heard of this happening to men when fingering a woman, but never the other way around!

Honestly, if my guy didn’t tell me how awesome it was I would have been embarrassed beyond belief.”

Source: littlelovable


Blowjob + vibrator… why have I never done this before?

“Been thinking about doing this for awhile now.

I love giving blowjobs and I love masturbating so I figured why not combine the two and my dude was more than down to give it a try…

Holy hell, it was even better than I expected.

Cumming with his dick in my mouth is everything I never realized I always needed.

It’s definitely my new favorite activity… “

Source: r_giraffe


“Here's my tips to giving the best blowjob ever.”

  1. “lick around the head of his cock -especially right below where the tip connects with the shaft
  2. when you are sucking his cock, lazily rotate your tongue on the head and the shaft inside your mouth
  3. Eye contact and sounds — they are sexy
  4. Go slowly, take your time. Lick his balls (try mimicking the alphabet with your tongue lol)
  5. Sloppy is fine, but still maintain suction
  6. Somebody already said this but yeah lick the shaft from the base (or his balls) until the tip, and then swirl your tongue at the head.
  7. Lick the slit lazily
  8. HAVE FUN”

Source: peppermint1729


“EYE CONTACT!”

“For me, as a receiver, it’s a night and day difference.

I know it’s hard to make the angle, but you can look him in the eye as you do a few hand strokes in between.

There’s a reason you see this a lot in porn.

Also: try to be as noisy as you can with the sloppiness.

And oral rule nr.1 that goes both ways: never swallow your saliva, just drool like an idiot.”

Source: Paltenburg


“Make the guy feel like you worshiping his cock and you so thankful to be doing it. “

“Whatever you say or do as long as he feels like you’re in heaven by simply servicing his pleasure…. that’s hot as fuck!

The rest is just preferences and experience.

A couple notes: Don’t use condoms for oral — it sucks.

If it’s a 1 night stand just get down to fucking if you always want a STD barrier.

Women tend to prefer a stead pace/rhythm but guys seem to like a little more variety to keep the sensations changing.

Sloppy blowjobs are great but only at home.

Different rules apply when out in public so you don’t leave stains on your cloths.

Don’t swallow your spit.

Let the excess run down the shaft and use your hands use that precum & saliva as lube to gently rub and squeeze his balls.

Use your other hand that’s not on his balls to stroke the shaft when your tongue is working the head.

If you’ve ever seen “edging” porn I’d recommend doing that. It’s a good way to give your jaw a break and come up for air while still keeping the flow.

Pay extra special attention to the cock “seams.”

Those are the lines of symmetry around the head and down the underside of the shaft.

Those are extra sensitive.

Very light scraping of teeth/finger nails can be pleasurable on these spots but don’t go to far.

It’s like someone running your fingernails over your scalp.

It feels great as long as they’re using a light touch.

Suck harder in the seconds before, during and when he’s coming down from orgasm.

Slow down but don’t stop sucking until he tells you to stop.

That extra sensitive post-cum phase is often ignored… I think it’s a missed opportunity to make his toes curl.

Warning… if you’re trying to use oral as a warm up for marathon sex you might want to skip this part. ⚠️

Personally, feeling like my soul’s just been sucked out through my penis is amazing, but it slows down my recovery time.”

Source: west_coast_bias


“Pretend that you love to give blowjobs, I read that advice before I did any blowjobs and it worked. “

“I did that when I first gave it. I pretended for myself that I loved giving blowjobs basically.

(Now I do, because I am good at it)

By pretending, you get enthusiasm, which he will enjoy.

(But not the pornstar enthusiasm, like a genuine sex act from your side)

Sloppy is the key, and teasing with lips/tongue/fingers is a big turn on too.

Don’t forget to use your hands also!

The blowjobs will get better if you listen to what he likes, listen to his breathing/moaning when you do certain things, and then “customize” the blowjob that way.

Take it slow and don’t forget communication is key, ask him what he likes! :)”


“The 10 Commandments of Giving Head (Blow Job Tips)”

Someone posted this on Reddit an it's so good.

Just do this and your first blowjob will be the best head he's ever received:

  1. “Thou shalt use lots of saliva. LOTS of it. Lick it up and down, bottom to top, and top to bottom. Spit on it, cover it like you’re smothering your pancakes with syrup. You’ll need the lube… Too much friction makes your job harder and less pleasant for him.
  2. Thou shalt use your hands. Do work! You can even use two! Don’t let them sit idly by your side! You can use your hands adjunct to give a HJ along with your mouth to cover more surface area. Also, if your mouth starts to get tired or you need to reposition, you can use your hands to jerk him off while you break. Double fist that sumbitch and twist (gently, of course) if you want to. Use saliva on your hands, don’t let it dry out. Whatever you do, don’t lose your momentum!
  3. Thou shalt not neglect the balls. Use a hand to touch them. Take a moment to use your mouth to tend to them. Don’t forget they’re there and REALLY like attention. Lick on em, suck on em, but not too hard. If your guy is into it, a little gooch attention is good too. He may be into you licking under his balls, so if you’re down for it, give it a try! I hear prostate simulation is good shit, but some are NOT cool with this. So, you might want to ask before you go sticking a finger in his booty hole.
  4. Thou shalt make eye contact. He wants to see you enjoying yourself, dammit. Look up at him, with his junk in your mouth. Look like you want his dick, NEED his dick, and let him know you know it’s not just any dick, it’s HIS dick. Eye contact adds a personal touch.
  5. Thou shalt not remain silent. Make noise. Groan, moan, gag, mmm, pretend that motherfucker is tasty and you’re lovin’ it more than McDonald’s.
  6. Thou shalt use some suction. Yes, it is called ‘sucking dick’ for a reason. Alternate using minimal to moderate intensity, but don’t overdo it. You’re not competing with Dyson to see who sucks the hardest, so don’t overdo it. A little here and there is good, but don’t try to suck his guts out like his dick is a fucking drinking straw.
  7. Thou shalt make a sincere attempt to deep throat. Relax. Say the alphabet backwards in your head. You can fit in more than you think. If you can’t, just be a good sport and try anyway. He’ll totally appreciate the effort and if you choke a little, and he’ll be flattered that his enormous member is gagging you. This is the kind of shit he’ll be jacking off to for years to come (no pun intended).
  8. Thou shalt maintain movement and sustain activity. Whether it be your tongue, hands, lips, mouth, whatever, move. And don’t stay in one area way too long unless he’s digging it or climaxing. So, basically, don’t just sit there with his cock in your mouth like a fucking thermometer.
  9. Thou shalt not reject thy semen. You might not like it in your mouth, you might hate to swallow. But I’m going to just be honest… It’s better if you do. At the VERY LEAST let him blow in your mouth. It feels better leaving it in during climax. And men love the idea of you taking their glorious load in your mouth. You don’t have to swallow… But, to be frank, it’s not attractive to run to the bathroom and spit. Imagine if your guy got done eating you out and ran to the bathroom to spit! So, is it a commandment to swallow? Nah. Will swallowing feel any better for him? Nah. Will it make the overall experience better? Hell yeah! (Pro-tip: Commandment #7 and do an auto-swallow)
  10. Thou shalt show enthusiasm! Get on your knees. Act like it’s the most wonderful Cock you’ve ever seen. Worship that Dick, ladies. Take that motherfucker to church!”

Source: fatasswalrus


“Blowjob Tips To Remember”

“Deepthroat — You have to believe in yourself. Focus on relaxing your gag reflex and pushing through it.

Stick your tongue out, go as deep as you can, and then hold it there for as long as you can. Try inhaling through your nose and swallowing repetitively.

Duration — Don’t rush it. Hurrying a blowjob will give the impression that you just want to get it over with. Take your time and enjoy it. Let it last as long as it takes.

Enthusiasm — Be confident and into it. Even if you feel like you don’t know what you’re doing, fake it until you make it.

Eyes — Look him in the eyes. Let him see your passion, smile with your eyes, wink at him when you have him deep.

Hands — Use them. One trick is to use your hand and mouth together. Let your hand act as an extension of your mouth.

Saliva — This is very important. It doesn’t need to be dripping all over the place (although some guys like that), but it should never be dry.

Swallow — When he’s about to cum, don’t slow down or stop. If you keep going or even speed up, it’ll be more intense for him. Another option is to take him as deep as you can right as he cums (this drives most guys wild).

Variation — Move your lips, makeout with it, circle your tongue around the head, lick from the base to the tip, use one hand, two hands, no hands, speed up, slow down, etc.”

Source: ladysexpert


“Oral Sex Tip: Tongue side to side, any gender.”

“Ages ago I read an article full of sex tips, and found one that had actually been formally researched by a sex therapist.

To paraphrase, when we lick something — a cock, a clit, or an ice cream cone — our instinct is to lick from bottom to top.

But this sex therapist asked couples to to try cunnilingus a little differently, moving the tip of the tongue across the clit from side to side.

Horizontally, not vertically.

She said that 70% of the women reported more intense orgasms, and some had their very first.

I’m bisexual, monogamous, and married to a man for five years now.

When I was giving him a blowjob, that old article popped into my head and I decided to try moving my tongue side-to-side, from the frenulum to the base of the shaft.

He made the sexiest sounds I have ever heard, and it was like his whole body turned to putty.

He said he didn’t know what I was doing different, but it felt amazing.

I do it regularly now, and I think it’s exciting that even couples who have been together for a long time can still find new and exciting things.

It also helps that he is uncut, so his frenulum is more sensitive.

I recommend this for women also, as it was intended, but for men it’s a little more challenging — moving your tongue back and forth while bobbing your head up and down is surprisingly difficult.

Like rubbing your tummy and patting your head at the same time. It takes more practice. But totally worth it.”

Source: invictus587


Hm…Do Women Actually Like Oral Sex?

This video sheds some light on girls perspective…maybe it helps you:


Stories From Men & Women On Giving Or Receiving Blowjobs

Let me close by three stories of people that will give you more ideas on how to make giving blowjobs great and more fun… ;)

Or simply a transformation story!

Read on:


#3 — How To Get your Wife or Girlfriend to Give You A Head While She's Having a Good Time (You Give The Massage)

“I feel I need share this as I am taking advantage of this technique for 10 years now.

Back in the days I often massaged my GFs back with oil and she really enjoyed it (as most women I guess).

She also likes movies about love and emotion which I do not.

Usually I´d let her watch those movies being really bored most of the time whilst she is lying in my arms.

One night she would move her head from my shoulder to my lap and ask me if I could massage her a bit more. I did.

Her head now resting on my belly made my cock grow.

All of a sudden she took it in her mouth and did a bit of tongue playing and sucking.

Not in a back and forth motion, more like a lollipop.

Ever since this became our thing.

Nearly every night we watch TV in bed, I massage her back and she sucks on my cock whilst resting her head on my lap.

This can go up to four hours and sometimes makes me cum.

I don´t mind what we watch when she sucks my dick, she get's to watch the movies she likes without me complaining + a loooong back massage.

Every now and then she switches sides to get the other shoulder massaged.

She is so used to my cock in her mouth that she sometimes falls asleep with my cock in her mouth.

I feel I need to share this since this routine has made my live so good for a decade now.

I get my cock sucked on a daily basis whilst she is having a good time watching what she likes and getting massaged.

So simple. So beautiful.

Source: throwawaysucky


“After 4 years, my wife has perfected the art of blowjobs”

“Wife and I have been married for 4, 1/2 years.

We have always had a great sex life.

Always fun, always exciting, always something new (we want it to stay that way).

But for the first 4 years she wasn’t the “best” at oral.

It was a mix between her skills and self confidence.

After about 4 years one day she pushed me down on the bed and told me “I want to be the best at everything” and proceeded to give me an hour long blowjob!

She saw my reaction to this, and I suppose it raised her self confidence level.

Day after day she just insisted on blowjobs. (Who am I to complain?!?)

Well, last night we had some great foreplay, and teasing and she then started oral.

Let me tell you, as I have been very sexually active in my life and have had my fair share of oral before.

My wife’s blowjob last night BLEW me away.

I mean I have never had a blowjob feel so good in my life.

Every second that went by my wife just got more excited and kept going at it.

So guys, being as I was a person who thought “well my wife just isn’t good at blowjobs and doesn’t like them”.

This is completely false.

I don’t know what got into her.

She said she watched some porn, and read a few things on it.

And now she not only is GREAT at it.

She enjoys them, and enjoys the pleasure she gives to me.

Moral of the story:

Even when you think all hope is lost, sometimes your girl may surprise the hell out of you.

The 4 years of bad blowjobs was worth it.

Completely worth it times 10!

Don’t get upset, just assure your girl she does a great job and to keep trying and trying different things.

Hell, maybe even send her some porn videos that you would think you would enjoy if she was doing it to you.

Practice makes perfect, and never ever down a girl for not doing so well, or not wanting to preform at all.”

Source: a6srs


“I, 25 year old female, feel like I reclaimed my sexual power through the magic of a blowjob.”

“Folks, I had the BEST Tinder hookup last night.

There were so many good things about it, but what really blew my mind were the facts that:

  • a) I went down on him
  • b) I really fucking loved it.

I’ve had hangups about blowjobs ever since a really degrading experience as a teenager, and since then I’ve always associated them with submissiveness, coercion, male-only gratification, etc.

I don’t know what it was about this guy last night (at least part of it was the fact that he didn’t ask or pressure at all), but I decided to try going down on him for the first time since that bad experience.

While I was sucking him, he turned into a moaning, writhing mess.

I think it was seeing him like that that made me realize how POWERFUL the person giving pleasure really is.

It was just this feeling of, whoa — I am completely in control of this situation right now.

I honestly never imagined I could feel like that giving head.

I never imagined I could feel like that during sex full stop!

Just wanted to put this out there for any other women (or men) who feel like a sex act has been “ruined” for them because of bad experiences.

You totally have the power to reclaim that act!”

Source: floraldorall


Bringing It All Together

You should have tons and tons, and tons of ideas now!

Just remember to have fun, practice… and ENTHUSIASM! :)

Oh and eye contact is invaluable from time to time! 🍷

What's the #1 tip you learned that you want to implement the next time when you're giving head to your guy?