How To Have Sex & Fuck A Girl Good: Top 10 Sex Tips

Whether you're having sex for the first time…

…or just want to fuck a girl real good…

I've collected the best sex tips all in one place both from my experience teaching guys and asking around for other people for their best tips.

After you're done with this guide you'll know how to have sex properly!

Actually whether you're a man or woman — it will help for both sides, but this one is more specifically for men.. ;)


#1 — Learn To Arouse Her Biggest Erogenous Zone — Brain

Okay, I didn't realise this one for years.

I noticed that sometimes girls would respond well and jump on me. Sometimes they would just reject me and tell how inappropriate I'm touching them.

I was confused, mind-fucked.

But then I read some books and realised that man and woman is so much different. Arousal for men happens just from seeing naked body — pussy, breasts, ass..

For women, it happens in mind first.

Did you know that porn is 99% for men? But women prefer to read erotica?

Hint. Hint.

So how does it help you?

Duh. You need to invest in your seduction skills.

Plan it out ahead. If you wanna have sex in the evening, make sure you send her some dirty texts or get her out on a date and tease her.

Give the sexy looks, play with her like with a cat…

Cat loves to play with a toy he cannot catch. Sorry women who are reading, for the example.

Woman are the same, they want the play, the uncertainty, the tease.

Guys just wanna go straight for the price. Nah! Doesn't work that way.

Just realising that you must put time into this stuff will change your game.


#2 — Learn Her Anatomy & Understand That Man and Woman's Arousal And Climax Happens Differently

I hinted this in #1 point.

But arousal is just one thing. We have different anatomies.

Spend time learning some good techniques on how to eat, lick, suck pussy. How to finger her. Where the sexy bits are in her pussy..

Dont just pounce on her clit or G-spot. Explore the whole area around.

It's all one big erogenous zone — her inner thighs, vagina lips…all the area around… the skin… just play with it all…!

Have fun while teasing her and ignoring her clit. It's the red rectangle you should avoid at first.

Do this and you'll drive her crazy!

If she's begging you to fuck her at some point — that's when you know you've properly aroused her!


#3 — Take Your Time With Foreplay: Kissing & Ignoring Her Pussy and Breasts

Women have tons of erogenous zones in the body.

Explore them all. Ask her around her most sensitive spots.

The foreplay can be tons of fun if you actually relax and enjoy yourself… Take your time.

As you slowly undress her, kiss her, touch her whole body with your nails, light touch, passionate touch… kissing, biting… All of that good stuff.

All the while ignoring her pussy and breasts… yep!

This sex tip alone will help you getting better at fucking her later.

It's all about driving her around, playing around, teasing around.

And it's a ton of fun :)


#4 — Understand That Sex Is Not Like You See It In Porn

This is a biggie.

Even if we theoretically know that porn is acting, that's all that most of us have seen around sex. That's all the sex education we've got.

Is it any wonder that we are insecure about our penis sizes, women are insecure about their breasts and pussies?

On top of that — you wanna fuck her good. But hardcore fucking is just on of the shades of great sex.

There's a lot more to it.

There's a slow sex, sensual sex — there is foreplay, eating her pussy, her sucking your cock.

And a lot of guys who search how to last longer and are insecure about that, don't realise that women actually don't enjoy having intercourse itself for more than 30 minutes.

Yes, 30 minutes of active fucking will make her pussy sore! Nooo…!

Oh and then there is a myth that woman will orgasm just from intercourse.

Also no, countless studies have shown that only 20% of women come from intercourse!

Fucking 20%! 80% hope that you'll read this article and stimulate her clit nicely!

So… make sure if you fuck her, then also rub her clitoris at the same time. Or grind her in a way that your pubic bone rubs her pussy at the same time.

Or get a cock ring. Whatever. Just fucking don't forget about that clit.


#5 — Make Her Come First: Don't Even Start Intercourse Before You've Made Her Cum

If you wanna be a real champ, you will make her cum first.

Before even having sex with her. Just finger her, eat her pussy — make her orgasm!

This will do several things:

  • it will set you at ease and you will be able to relax more
  • She won't be upset if later you accidentally ejaculate too fast
  • It will get you horny is hell! Nothing is more pleasurable than making a girl cum while you are eating her out! It's addicting

And honestly… it's just a good practice.

Nowadays man's orgasm is taken for granted, but many men forget that woman wants to have pleasure too..!

So invest in some education how to eat her out nicely.

Here's a video I made for you guys:

Ask her to show you how she gets herself off and pay attention.

Get a sex toy for her.

Vibrators are magic. Dildos are cool. G-spot dildos are epic.

These awesome tools will outsource some of the hard work and will add some kinky spiciness to your sex.

When you don't know what you're doing it takes ages to eat her out till orgasm, or make her squirt with G-spot stimulation…

Yeah, your tongue and fingers do get tired after 15 mins of that stuff.

So use props and make your job easier.


#6 — Don't Rely on Fucking Techniques: Experiment & Be Present

Yeah, invest in sex education.

Use it for few times, but then star improvising!

If you keep using techniques on her, it's gonna become mechanical and she'll feel it and it will murder her arousal.

She wants to be there with you, she doesn't want to feel like she's a fucking tool! If you want a tool just get a pocket pussy and jerk yourself off to death.

But when you're with her — pay attention to her. Be present, take her in.

Her breath, body sensations, trembles, eyes…. hair.

Drink it all in and listen to your subconscious and just do it. Just keep playing around, enjoying yourself and the partner and the whole sexual act.

This will make you both love sex more than ever!

Never ever you'll see something like that in porn. There it's all about grinding, screaming, squirting and humiliating the women.

Now…this is some tantra shit… :) Thats where tantra starts by the way — just doing nothing, feeling the magnetic arousal you have for the other person… and just noticing, being with it.

It's sexy as hell.

Rough fucking is also sexy. Just each has its own time and space.

Become improviser. Freestyler :)

And keep reading, learning about new things to try to feed your imagination even more.


#7 — Don't Ask Her What She Likes During Sex! Take Charge Instead.

Ouch.

Now you may wanna be a considerate, cool and caring guy, but if you ask her question while fucking her. You'll kill her arousal!

Yeah, you can ask simple questions like — Harder? Stronger? Is it good baby?

Questions that she can simply answer Yes/No. Questions that doesn't make her think.

If you ask her what position she would like… or keep asking complicated questions on how to eat her pussy better…

Man… Just don't do it.

I rest my case.

You can always talk how it was after sex or when you're just cuddling or talking… Just don't do it during sex.

Most women will tell you if they want something. But if they don't tell you anything — just take the charge and be the fucking man!

Decide when it's time to change positions. Decide when you wanna eat her pussy out. Decide.

All the while paying attention to her. If you do that, you'll naturally feel what she likes, what she wants and will do it without her asking.

She'll be amazed and will love it.

Just keep practicing the presence and you'll discover the superpowers you'll start magically possessing.


#8 — Don't Focus on Your Own Sensations — Focus On Her Instead & Last Longer

When you focus on yourself, chances are you're disconnected and you ejaculate way too soon.

The trick here is to focus on her. Don't overstimulate yourself.

If you need more stimulation — sure, fuck her harder, look at her boobs, slap her ass… Get into position where you have a nice, sexy look at her pussy.

But most of the time, you'll need to work on your temper to be able to last longer.

That's why it really helps to have constant breathing… and focus your attention on non-sexual parts of her body…

Focus in on her hair, eyes…belly, her breath… Whatever that makes you feel more connected with her.

She'll love it. And you'll last longer.

Simple enough, huh?


#9 — Show Her You're Enjoying It — Make Noises, Compliment Her

If you're thinking you're insecure — women are insecure too!

We each have our worries and if you wanna get her to enjoy sex with you, it's worthwhile to help her relax…and feel good about herself.

You do that, and she'll help you fix your insecurities too…

If you're like most men than you're a silent ninja during sex. Meaning you don't make noises, because you're fucking man right?

Yet, you love her moaning and screaming, no?

Well, if you're just silently grinding her, how do you think she feels?

She might feel relaxed, but most likely she's wondering…

Is he enjoying it? Not sure… maybe I'm not sexy to him… My breasts are too small, I'm too fat, I have bony butt…

Set her at ease by showing and telling her how much you love having sex with her!

Compliment her body parts!

Say: how sexy her pussy looks to you! How much you love her breasts.

How her pussy makes you hard and horny.

Yeah, and don't be ashamed of making noises! Grunt, roar, groan — she'll love it and she will become more relaxed and louder…!

If you want her scream, start making some wild, primal noises yourself!


#10 — Spend Time Building Sexual Connection After Sex

Now, you nailed it all…

You had a nice fuck, both had a good time in bed… But after you ejaculated you just wanna sleep, clean up and move on with your life.

Right? Yeah. All men are like that.

But women miss the aftercare! Their favorite moments happen after the sex.

The cuddling, the relaxation — it all builds your connection like nothing else.

If you just spend 10–15 minutes with her presently laying and loving her…

She'll fall in love with you fast… or she'll fall in love with you more and more…

You don't need to really do anything else — just lay there. Be with her…

That's what good fuckers do…


Bonus: Sex Tips From Other Men & Women

Now I gathered tons of advice and sex tips from other couples, men, women who are ahead of the game.

Read their stories and you might learn something!

#1 — What is the best sex tip you have ever gotten? What is the best tip you have?

This is a list of many tips from different men and women I surveyed.

  • “Start out like a butterfly landing on a flower, end like a bulldog eating a bowl of oatmeal”
  • “Slow down, stop focusing on orgasms, and focus on connection and shared pleasure.”
  • “COMMUNICATE. Say what you want, what you like, what feels good, what your partner can do better. Say what does not feel good, ask how you can be better. No one can read minds, you have to say this stuff out loud, in an actual conversation to a real person. Well, ok, email or text also works, but you gotta talk about it.”
  • Best advice I ever received was make eye contact. Best advice I can give, be enthusiastic. Make your partner feel like they are the hottest thing on the planet.
  • Be comfortable with your sexuality and just enjoy yourself. Clear your mind and be in the present. I think its good to be always pushing the boundaries of your comfort zone.
  • Move your hips and forget about your dick for a few minutes, meaning ignore the in and out and focus in the grind.
  • Listen, communicate, and grab that ass like you own it
  • When you first penetrate a girl try just having sex with her with your cock head for a minute or two. Just the tip to build up suspense and then give her a good long stroke
  • Lube it up
  • Relax, don’t stress about what you look like and enjoy the feelings/sensations.
  • Never stop learning. Forever be a student.
  • Take shower

#2 — How To Eat Out Pussy Real Good

Yeah… if you wanna be good in bed you MUST know how to eat pussy (or give a blowjob as woman)

“I consider myself pretty good at pussy eating out. After my very first girlfriend have received nothing but compliments.

Go with her flow (love it when she moves her hips grabs my hand or even give instructions , a silent sighing women means I'm doing okay but i can do it much better.

I basically facefuck the pussy as you would deep throat a cock ease up on the clit make it exciting and unpredictable.

Once she gets to moaning often I increase the speed until I feel her legs shaking or she rests there then turn down the volume and finish with some kisses very slow and soft licking.

Basically start out slow, tease — gradually increase speed jam your mouth into it.

Don't neglect the lips (your own) a lot of guys just lick it like an ice-cream cone or a dog slobbering on it.

Imagine a girl just blowing you back and forth with head movements pressure tongue-play — they love getting head as much as we do and it's an art that needs lots of practice!

Different women respond to different techniques and you just have to find out how!

The last girl i got to orgasm in under 5 minutes by putting my head into it, combined with lips tongue like a hurricane.

It's easier to suck a cock than it is to eat out a pussy, but man it is amazing when you do a great job.

Take your time besides oral, sex is bad when its forced — you feel pressured and commanding.

The best sex is a long lasting session with some breaks in between, humour is important too, dirty talk maybe even role play and talking about yourselves in between or how much you cherish her / him what you like about each other.

It's a puzzle that falls in itself when the chemistry is right. You often don't need to even speak once during it once you know each other very well / love is involved :)”

Source: Anonymous


#3— [Pro-Tip] The 90 second orgasm, sex doesn’t ever have to stop getting better. An old guys advice.

This is an amazing story…super insightful tips from experienced man.

“Short background:

  • Dating @ 16 (each others firsts in everything)
  • Married @18
  • Kids @ 19 & 20

My (Male 38) wife (39) didn’t have her first orgasm until she was 25. And it was with a vibrator. For the next 13 years she would have 1 and be done and only with a vibrator.

One magical night last year, she had her first O with only my penis. And then she was able to have many (2–6).

Last night, she came in 90 seconds with just my penis, a couple minutes later and we were both cumming together and done.

You wanna know the secret?

A deepening emotional connection where she started to feel truly safe, loved and adored.

I firmly believe the quickest path to a woman’s physical pleasure is via her psyche.

Learn/Love/Appreciate/Adore, don’t focus on the orgasm, focus on a more thorough and complete understanding of the inner workings of her mind and the rest will follow.

There is literally no other explanation.

The real “magical connection” is the incredibly deep emotional one.

My wife had a hard time letting go of her anxieties/fears and was at times crippled by her insecurities.

She was an amazing home maker, mother and incredibly giving human being. I was career focused, arrogant, and immature (teen father). I was a great provider, father and generous.

However I underestimated her and didn’t recognize her complexity (which she was good at hiding).

We were (and ARE) best friends and lovers, but the passion had waned. As our kids started to become adults and leave we had a crisis of identity (she was a stay-at-home mother since 19).

We had a deep emotional bond, but I don’t think there is a upper limit on how strong it can get.

She became more comfortable in her own skin and I became less arrogant. The rest sort of just fell into place. The real point of my post is that human beings are complex, and ever changing.

A relationship can improve in unimaginable ways even after 20+ years of growing up together. The sex and orgasms are just a byproduct of the real magic we have, but its way too hard to put those into a catchy reddit subject.

Think of it this way, the thrill of NRE (new relationship energy) can be DWARFED by the intense emotional and mental connection that can ONLY come from 20+ years of shared life experiences and that intense emotional and mental connection CAN manifest itself in new and amazing sexual experiences.

That was the point of my post, but telling a story is all about diluting things to a common denominator to entertain the masses.

You wanted details, here they are. “

Source: iOwnHer


#4 — [Sexual advice] Guys, we gotta moan more

“Yes, we have to moan more.

Believe me or not but our moans are like aural switches for our lady which makes her squirm with intense pain and lust for you, and how I reached this conclusion is what I wanna share with you guys.

I am a CS major who basically deals with writing numerous codes and programs each single day, and people who code clearly can understand the tiredness and lethargy one feels after writing a long piece of code.

My gf on the other hand is a nursing major and practically deals with, you know, nursing (IM SORRY I DON’T KNOW WHAT YOU LEARN IN NURSING).

So here was I in my room, locked and writing my code, and in the living room was my gf who was watching TV and having some laughs.

Amidst her laughs and the TV noise, I decided to ‘bust my stress off’ because I really needed to and since there was a good amount of aural distraction from the living room, I said “Why not mate”.

Now we guys have a natural tendency to not moan when making love with our girl since we tend to hold our orgasm for a long time.

Holding it in itself takes self control and focus so irrespective of how good or awesome it feels, we don’t want to finish before making our girl finish on us with 100% satisfaction.

And also, us guys feel a lot conscious about our moaning noises we make so therefore moaning in front of your girl really does not happen until you release your love juice for her, and since I myself am a guy I also am a part of this group.

Since I was alone in the room and there was a good amount of noise to cover up my moans in my room, I decided to do the deed and begin my work. (Now some might ask why not ask your gf for any help.

Well she herself was tired from the day working with patients and wanted some rest to loosen up, so I did not bother to disturb her in any way).

Now here I am, jerking my cock off and moaning with light tingles down me while obviously making sure she does not hear me moaning by listening for any changes in volume in the living room, but the closer I approached to my release, the more my body started giving away its cues of moans and hip jerks and “Im gonna cum for you love”.

The release felt real good after a long day of work, so after my deed I decided to clean it all up, wash my hands and spend some time with my gf but this is where the story took a twist and things went in the other way.

As I opened the door, I saw my gf standing right in front of the door, staring at me as if she saw something really lewd.

Me, realizing that she heard me do myself sunk me into embarrassment below measurable depths, but to what I expected she pushed me back to the bed, undid her clothes and rubbed herself on my cock and I swear to god, she was wet beyond limits and told me that my moans were something she always wanted to hear and finally hearing them made her so horny that she just wanted to have me after that.

And in a few minutes, she had me so much that I had the best sex of my life.

I know this is a long post to convey something short, but many guys like me out there are missing out on something very important in their sexual relationship and it is conveyance of your pleasure to your partner.

Don’t be afraid to moan guys because it is something your girl really wants from you for her sexual confidence and your pleasure.

Believe me, your moans are switches for her; use them right and she really will become hot stuff for you.

TL;DR I was tired, I jerked off. Gf heard me moan, she got horny as fuck and fucked me like shit.”

Source: clutchking_asiimov


#5 — Men: Do Your Kegels!(seriously)

“Back story: I’ve been dating this girl for 3 weeks.

I am 30 years old and she is 23. Today was the first time we’ve had sex together.

We are both Yogi’s and I do a lot of tantric breathing to help sustain myself.

Today was the first time I’ve had sex in 3 years since my other girlfriend cheated on me.

Everyday during my workouts I work on my PC muscle doing Kegel exercises.

For those that don’t know what it is here is the entry from Wikipedia:

“The pubococcygeus muscle or PC muscle is a hammock-like muscle, found in both sexes, that stretches from the pubic bone to the coccyx (tail bone) forming the floor of the pelvic cavity and supporting the pelvic organs.”

I was squeezing my PC muscle while inside her multiple times and she never felt that sensation before literally no guy ever did that to her and it made her quiver.

So do your f****** kegels men!

Strengthening the PC muscle helps with many things, it even can delay ejaculation if it’s strong enough, but most of the time what it does is when you squeeze that muscle it makes your penis move in an upward motion if strong enough.

I cannot stress enough that strengthening the pelvic floor is such a great thing and I discovered that today.

I am super ecstatic at this moment that I was able to give a woman a sensation she never felt before.”

Source: SwampRaider


Bringing It All Together

So I hoped you enjoyed this article and will remember just to have lots of practice.

The more sex you have, the better you'll become :)

After a while it will be like riding a bike ;)

Enjoy!