It took me 25 years to figure this out.

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Irecently turned 25. Besides making peace with horrific hangovers and straggler grey hairs, I’ve been thinking a lot about what that means.

Mostly, I’m trying to figure out if I’m an adult now and what pieces of my life can be used as supporting evidence of that claim.

The thing is, I’m a Western Millennial. In case you haven’t noticed, we don’t really have a clue what adulthood should look like. …

An Open Letter to the woman who paid my Gen Z sister less at a summer camp for not knowing how to operate a power tool.

Virginia Slims ad — 1976

Virginia Slims: maker of the revolutionary cigarette for women, femtervising trailblazer, and the company that coined the legendary feminist slogan “You’ve Come a Long Way, Baby!”

If you haven’t seen this ad before, I don’t blame you. I don’t read magazines from the ’70s either… but as a millennial woman who’s never known anything other than a modern and progressive era — I find everything about this ad fascinating and thought-provoking.

Subject matter aside, the slogan was meant to signal a change in thought, the end of an archaic period and the start of a new era — one where…

Cultural bias towards extroverts is a defining force in the life of an introvert but it doesn’t have to be so bad.

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Life is chock full of polarizing moments, the kind that shed new light on certain things, whether you like it or not. These moments pave the way to a new chapter where the notion of revisiting the previous would be absurd.

Think the moment you realized Santa Claus (and the other bizarre myths your parents trolled you with for your own enchanted pleasure) wasn’t real, or when you realize someone just isn’t who you wanted them to be.

But most recently, the moment I realized that I’d spent my whole life uncomfortably forcing myself to exhibit extroverted qualities when I…

A short story about a perfect weekend that struggled to meet expectations.

A 27 minute flight from Athens, the pilot chattering in multiple European languages every so often, guiding us through the Aegean sea, island by island.

We land. Shit, is it supposed to look this barren? Where are the blue roofs and infinity pools? Oh right. This is a volcano, volcanos are hostile and barren environments.

I sacrificed my hair-wash schedule for months to acquire this valuable life advice.

A Spinco Instructor yelling inspirational words at her sweaty disciples

Signing up for an elite spin studio membership is a token big-girl moment. It’s up there with renting one bedroom condos, needing creative tax strategies, and staying in real hotels while traveling. A true rite of passage of the modern era.

Therefore, I was truly stoked to join Spinco, Canadian boutique spinning studio, in November of 2018.

As a spin-virgin, I struggled through my first class, thinking:

“I did not know this much sweat was humanly possible”

“Sorry but there is no way I am turning this dial up any further…”

“How the f*** is anyone supposed to get on this tech-house beat?!”

“Thanks to this remix, Coldplay lost a…

“The unexamined life is not worth living.” — Socrates

I recently attempted to obtain a competitive position in one of the most highly sought after cities to live in and work in North America. I have not exactly been successful with the venture so far, and the failure and rejection I felt throughout that experience forced me to examine how I approach personal development.

Personal development/growth is somewhat of a millennial fixation. We live in an age of endless possibilities being broadcasted across social media 24/7 — it’s difficult to not question the way we live our lives and become obsessed with self-improvement.

The problem is, that the search…

The real world is hard.

This is not me.

Regrettably, I am the kind of person that sets a new iPhone alarm every.single.time I have to wake up at a slightly different time and presently have 67 alarm options. Therefore, it definitely never occurred to me to delete the Countdown Widget sitting in the top corner of my MacBook desktop titled: “Finished School”. Somehow, I emerged from being lost in the Amazon sauce, and browsing overnight-oats recipes, to land on my desktop and learn that I had finished my college classes 316 days ago.

316 days ago, I had a massive(ly expensive)focus that structured my lifestyle and occupied my…

Dana Raye Bell

Millennial Introvert working in Tech, writing to preserve my sanity

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