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I don’t normally talk about my past because I’m always afraid of coming across as fishing for pity. I also don’t spend any time dwelling on the past. I have goals, purpose, people here and now who require my attention. The past is a corpse. There is no use carrying a corpse around. They’re heavy. I also know that there are plenty of people who had it way worse than I did, so I don’t mention my own experiences. It feels like I’m complaining about something that probably wasn’t that big a deal.

I don’t want you to get the…


Doubt is one of the biggest obstacles preventing people I see from success. It’s a close cousin of fear, and it’s why I focus on conquering it first before anything else. Other traits that may bring you closer to success will simply be obstructed as well if you doubt success is even possible for you. You will be sabotaging your own efforts, leading to a tremendous waste of energy, time, and other resources. So I suggest starting any improvement or transformational journey by developing a sense of adequacy and self-confidence.

Self-confidence can feel so far out of reach, perplexing. Many…


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There’s a pretty awesome line in that movie The Breakup where Jennifer Aniston’s character says something like, “I don’t want you to do the dishes. I want you to want to do the dishes!”

I feel like this is pretty damn near what it’s like when you lack the motivation to write. You know you need to write. But you really want to want to write. At least that’s how I feel when the world somehow absconds with my desire to get any writing done.

Not being motivated to disrupt the white space with words is a problem that haunts…


There are lots of atrocities happening in this world, and I’m a huge proponent of awareness of these things. But the other day something changed my perspective on this, and that is what I want to talk about.

“Evil prevails when good men do nothing.” — Edmund Burke

I once wrote a short Facebook note called “Your Life is Not That Bad.” The purpose of the note was to point out some of the awful things that are happening in the world to remind people that their lives are probably not half as bad as they think. It was a…


The Stoic philosopher Seneca likened anger to temporary madness. We commonly describe enraged people by saying they aren’t themselves, which implies a loss of personal control. They aren’t behaving rationally.

Anger is something that visits all of us at times for a variety of reasons and in varying intensities, but it is almost always a destructive force, very much like a wildfire. Fire can be a useful tool, but it can also easily burn out of control, consuming everything in its path (much like anger).

The key to mastering anger is to learn to treat it the same way we…


There seems to be a lot of confusion surrounding a fairly ubiquitous piece of technology called a telephone. They have keypads on them, or if you’re not stuck in 2007, a touchscreen. Well, those are for the fancy mobile ones. These devices are more than just phones, but that specific feature has somehow led to a slow unraveling of our societal structure continuum thingy. Some people think we need to get back to our archaic roots and talk on the phone more often.

Should we also send more telegrams?

Should I buy a carrier pigeon, too?

Look, I’m not against…


The internet is a cesspool of stupidity. A quagmire of stupidity. A bukkake of stupidity.

We are showered with idiocy and lies, every few seconds, relentlessly. This is not limited to the internet; advertising doesn’t actually have to tell you the truth. But when everyone thinks ads are telling the truth, we pass the shit along like it’s the first Showcase Showdown (always wait for the second one). I would estimate that more stupidity abounds on the web than intelligent material, which is a lot, considering how we have access to everything known to man at our fingertips. …


I’ve spent a lot of time trying to make it as a creative person. I’ve tried so many different creative things I can’t even think of things I haven’t tried. If you’ve been blessed with what I hear people always calling the “creative gene,” you’ll understand what I’m talking about. You seem to have a knack for anything that requires creativity. You can draw. You’ve probably made your own clothing, decorations, jewelry. You can pick up a piece of technology and fiddle with it (camera, music editing software, whatever) and spit something out that’s decent after a few tries. …


One of the ways I like to help people realize the importance of logic and rhetoric is by showing how they’re related to martial arts. We’re accustomed to thinking of self-defense in only the physical realm; we can’t help it — martial arts is pretty ubiquitous these days. The UFC has helped popularize mixed martial arts, and there are plenty of schools in just about every city that teach self-defense. We know there is always a possibility that someone might attack us, putting our very lives in danger. So people train for it. We learn to prepare for these types…


I consider verbal interaction a cousin to physical interaction. Of course, there are lots of different kinds of physical interaction — greetings, intimacy, rough-housing, fighting — just as there are different kinds of verbal interaction. And just as you don’t hip toss or armbar everyone who comes into physical contact with you, your approach to verbal interaction is also going to be varied.

I look at verbal interaction — debate, discussion, arguments, etc. — like a mental martial art. It’s the basis behind Loricism, and I would argue that learning it is even more important than learning physical self-defense, and…

Daniel Donche Jr.

author, artist, athlete, actor, assclown, autodidact….I like to create things and think about things. I’m all over the place.

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