I was unaware that there had been a misandry fad; I suppose I understand where it’s coming from, but it’s still shitty, anti-feminist, and anti-human.

It might comfort you to know that your cisgender “feminist” “friends” are weird jerks! Definitely don’t do anything to make them happy; run away! And for goodness’ sake, please don’t deny yourself any comfort or joy on their account. If you feel unsafe expressing femininity, then yes, do what you need to in order to keep yourself safe. But don’t shrink yourself to spite them.