Destroyed by Divorce

When you get married you vow;

for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until we are parted by death.

Often times, wedding vows aren’t taken seriously.

You get married young. You rush into marriage. You don’t truly love the person you are marrying. Getting married because your pregnant. Or because you already have children.

Regardless of the situation. There’s always a reason for this future outcome.

Divorce.
It takes two, to destroy a marriage.
Divorce is a fire exit. When a house is burning, it doesn’t matter who set the fire. If there is no fire exit, everyone in the house will be burned!

Everyone in my house burned. I truly believed that it had broken me. I felt like my life was falling apart. My parents were together for 23 years. My whole life I was taught that divorce was NEVER and option. The last thing I ever thought would happen, was that my family would be broken.

I remember that day like it was yesterday. My heart felt like it was literally breaking. I flipped out. I decided I needed to remove myself from the situation. One night I packed my things and decided to move to Oklahoma to live with my grandparents.

I stayed in Oklahoma for 10 months. I went through many ups and downs. Fought many suicidal thoughts.

Moved back to Arkansas, still fighting these horrific suicidal thoughts. One of my parents decided to get remarried. The other had been dating different people. I was hurt. I was still caught up in the divorce. They were moving on.

There’s no secret to coping with your parents divorce.

Even a year after they split up, I was still not over the divorce.

Time heals all wounds.

I am still not over this divorce completely. I never will be. However, I have learned alot of new things.

Divorce is not what I want for myself. I want to grow old with the one that I love. I want to be madly in love with the person that I end up marrying.

I will never put my children through a divorce. It is way too devastating. Divorce is not an option.

When I vow to my significant other;

for better, for worse,
for richer, for poorer,
in sickness and in health,
to love and to cherish,
until we are parted by death.

I want my person to know, this is for life.

You are for life.

You are my life.

You may fall out of love during a marriage, but it’s being able to fall back in love that keeps a marriage going.