Alexander, I’m sorry that you are having difficulty with this concept. Believe it or not, there are a lot of women who see caring for their family members as a loving act, regardless of the act. Yes, household chores can release oxytocin. As I pick up my child’s toys, I think of her and receive a rush of oxytocin. When I fold my husband’s shirts, I think of how he looks in them and get the rush. I can go on and on about how every household chores I do makes me think of my family, thus releases oxytocin. I don’t need a study for that.

As far as too much oxytocin decreasing sex drive… It doesn’t decrease sex drive. I never said it did. In fact, I said in the beginning of my post that the wife probably does desire sex too.

The message of my post is that it is hard to want to do more of anything when you have already been doing it all day; specifically having sex when you have already done several hours of nurturing behaviors already.