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Joint finances is the way to go. Getting the other party to agree and used to it is another matter. It only took a serious budget crunch (2 kids in daycare, that will suck up every spare dollar coming in) to slowly get my wife come in (she was fine with transparency but still has a hard time (hard to go to joint system when you are in your mid-30’s) Ironically it is actually more advantageous to her than me since I make twice as much but get the same amount of “fun” money).