Stop loving yourself less so that someone else can. Stop comparing yourself to others. Stop degrading others when you have a bad day. Simply stop. I’m not writing this because I’m perfect and I don’t do any of the things I just said not to do, because in reality we all do these things. But I’m not gonna sit here and tell you how to live your life because in all honesty we are gonna do whatever we want. However I am going to explain some of my own “comparing stories”
As I get older I find it harder and harder to not compare myself. When I was younger I used to compare myself to the girls who were better at a certain activity than me or the kids that were always super outgoing. Even now I still find myself comparing my life to others’ and the way I see their lives depicted through Instagram or Twitter (granted their lives may not always be as happy as their posts). And no matter how hard I try I always find myself comparing my family life to my friends’ and people I encounter in my life. Let me start off by saying this: I love my family. But growing up I always viewed my family situation as rough because in reality it was at first, and even at a young age I found myself craving a “perfect family” and comparing my family to my friends’ family (when in reality every family has their rough times) yet I always felt different from my classmates because I never had a dad growing up and I had to accept that at a young age. Ten years since my family became the way it is, I still find myself degrading the way I view myself and my family just because it’s different than that of my friends’. All of these thoughts and perceptions I had about myself and family eventually led to nostalgia.
A lot of nostalgia. I would go through these periods of loving the way my family is and finding the good in it and especially the number three which I often see (three people in my family). But then I would have periods of time in my life where I would feel nothing but emptiness and sadness. Sad because I wasn’t like my friends. Because I wasn’t good in certain activities like my peers. And all of these thoughts led to more negative energy and perceptions about myself that I never thought of before. And the cause of all this pain was due to my own doings and my constant comparison to others.
But then sophomore year came around. And many things happened. I switched schools, made new friends, lost friends, and eventually came to terms with myself. I realized that it is honestly okay to be different. I know it sounds cheesy but it’s true, I learned to accept the way my life has been set out for me and all I can hope for is good memories with the people I have chosen to surround myself with.
TIPS ON LOVING YOURSELF (EVEN MORE)
- Spend some YOU time doing something YOU enjoy
- Surround yourself with people who genuinely love and care for you
- Eat whatever the heck you want
- Take pictures of anything beautiful you see
- Spread the good vibes (you’d be surprised at how much good energy comes back)
- Spend quality time with your family
- Pick up a new hobby (leading to cook is actually so much fun)
- No matter what. Live life as if it was your last day on Earth