I hope you find your perfect guy.
You are right not to let anyone rush you.
On finding one that’s not an ass hole…..I don’t know if that’s a possibility. I mean the chances are good you could find someone who is not in a constant state of ass holedness. But someone, or anyone that never falls to the level of ass hole foe short periods of time? I just dunno.
I have been an ass hole. I would like to think Iwill never be one again, but I doubt it. We all are from time to time. All of us every one. Because it has alot to do with how the person you are being an ass hole to is feeling at the time. You can think you are being a saint. But if you say the wrong saintly thing at the wrong time you are an ass hole. It’s sometimes not up to you to decide.
I have been married 37 years now. I love her more now than ever. I have been a ass hole at times. Selfish and inconsiderate also. She tells me, and I repent. Sometimes she’s an ass hole, and then I’m an ass hole back. I hate that. You would think I could learn to see it coming, and stifle it somehow. Not this old guy.
I guess my point is that we are all a little defective. But if you find love you should probably go after it just because. Yeah because.
Because I think I heard it said somewhere by some really smart person “Even ass holes can have a silver lining” or sometning like that.