Art by Darcy Paterson

Emotional Pain Can Transform Your Life

I’ve suffered through some shit.

As I write this, my partner of seven years has left me. I feel like I’ve wasted my time. I feel let down. I’ve had to move out. To move cities. To start over.

I know of others who’ve had this pain. You might be one of them. Actually, you probably are. We’ve all suffered. Everyone.

I’ve been disappointed with relationships in the past. When I was younger, I had no idea how to cope. The emotional pain that I felt would sometimes turn to rage, sometimes to despair. It happened without my consent.

This time around it’s different. I’m a seasoned pro. This time, the pain that I feel, I’m feeling it. Really feeling it. I’m owning it. It belongs to me.

This is how you transform pain. You own it. You invite it into your existence like it was a guest coming for dinner. You greet it with a smile. Offer it a drink and an hors d’oeuvre. You ask it questions. You tell it stories that make it laugh. Then, when the time comes, you hug it goodbye.

Learn to do this. It takes guts. It takes practice, but you… you can do it.