“Creating a Welcoming Home: Setting Boundaries and Crafting a Thoughtful Guest List”

Establishing Boundaries prior to Allowing Individuals into Your Residence

During my initial encounter with boundaries, I had no comprehension of their nature. I mistakenly believed that setting boundaries meant imposing certain standards to alter someone else’s behavior. I thought that if those standards were violated, the person would face consequences. However, over time and through experience, I realized that I could never — and should never — attempt to change another person’s behavior. Boundaries have nothing to do with others; they are entirely about oneself.

To put it simply, building boundaries is about stating what is acceptable and what is not.

Boundaries are not erected in response to others; they are established around oneself, honoring one’s inherent value. Reacting with defensive walls to someone’s words or actions stems from fear. On the other hand, setting boundaries involves recognizing and valuing what one holds within their own “home.”

Here’s a powerful way to envision boundaries: Imagine having precious jewels and diamonds inside your home. Setting a boundary is not merely saying, “I want to protect these from theft.” It’s declaring that these possessions hold value, and anyone attempting to wear or use…