At Least From Time to Time

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Asturias, Spain

“Be a loner. That gives you time to wonder, to search for the truth. Have holy curiosity. Make your life worth living.” ―Albert Einstein

Being a loner, although encouraged by Albert Einstein himself, is not really something our modern society would regard as worth doing. We live in a world that praises extroverted practices and where we are connected to literally everything except ourselves.

I usually make a longer trip just by myself at least once a year. It helps me to put things into perspective, to gather distance and re-order everything in my head. This year I will head to Ecuador and Galapagos, settle with my backpack on an island in the middle of Pacific Ocean, with salty water in the tap and barely any Internet connection. …


Are you sure you want to know everything?

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Photo by Fallon Michael on Unsplash

We live in a culture obsessed with certainty. We are in love with round and plain answers. We are a generation looking for clear solutions, devouring self-improvement books, pushing science to its limits, and always wanting to know more. We pump into our veins the best practices and the productivity hacks from wherever we can find them. We want to know everything. Many of my peers would identify with a statement that goes something like this: I hunt everywhere for a life worth living and a knowledge worth knowing.

Obviously, it is not only us. If there is one common denominator across the entire history of human culture, it is the insatiable hunger to know the unknowable — that is, to know everything, and to know it with certainty, which is itself the enemy of the human spirit. …


A Collection of My Favourite First Lines

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Every person who has ever tried to write something, no matter if a book or a blog article, has faced the one great question: How do I start?

Writing the first sentence often seems so overwhelming that we’d rather stare at the blinking cursor on a terribly white page. Looking for inspiration, I collected my absolute favourite first sentences from different novels. Ready to dive in?

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1. “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” Anna Karenina by Leo Tolstoy

Number one is an endless classic. But you won’t be able to stop reading after this kind of first sentence, will you? It’s the kind of book that you start reading thinking, ‘Uh, this is really thick’ and then you cannot stop. You laugh, get angry, and you imagine Anna Karenina hugging Vronsky for the first time and you feel that you are actually somewhere in Russia looking at them and shedding a discrete tear. …


Especially If You Are Writing or Creating

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Perfectionism is a personality trait characterised by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting high performance standards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations. Does this ring a bell for you?

For me it surely does. I am a perfectionist, I like things to be nice, smooth, and perfect. I have hilariously high expectations of myself (and others, but I am much tougher on myself). I always think that I am not doing enough, or that I could surely be doing more. Right?

The problem with perfectionism is that it is not human. Human beings are imperfect. …


How to become consistent in what you do as a dreamer

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It doesn’t interest me what you do for a living. I want to know what you ache for — and if you dare to dream of meeting your heart’s longing. It doesn’t interest me how old you are. I want to know if you will risk looking like a fool — for love — for your dreams — for the adventure of being alive.

I am a dreamer. My personality naturally pushes me to follow my heart more often than not. Sometimes I fear that a dose of realism will kill my dreams. As a result, I avoid overthinking opportunities before I jump in. This attitude generates a tremendous willingness to try new things and take on initiatives with intangible benefits. …


It’s one thing avoiding social contact. It’s another thing entirely being told you can’t leave your house.

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How to recognise it and deal with a feeling that prevents you from being yourself

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Honestly, I have never considered myself a jealous person. Not at all. I always thought that jealousy only destroys beautiful things and mostly it destroys yourself. (I was right with this one.) This is my story about falling into the vicious cycle of jealousy and trying to get out of it, before it is too late.

“Welcome to the wonderful world of jealousy, he thought. For the price of admission, you get a splitting headache, a nearly irresistable urge to commit murder, and an inferiority complex. Yippee.”
J.R. Ward

I thought I was immune to this terrible problem because I never really dealt with a jealous partner and I had never experienced real jealousy myself. I am not talking about feeling a little bit challenged when another woman approaches your man. I am talking about a sick, dangerous obsession that consists of imagining terrible things that have nothing to do with reality and then blaming someone completely innocent for that. …


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It’s been such a long time since I have written. The longer you push something aside, the harder it becomes to come back.

I have always written a lot about my nomadic, minimalistic life. Keep one suitcase, travel the world, pay attention. In the last year my life has turned upside down, without really turning, just slowly falling into place: I settled in a real home, I took my suitcase to the basement, I got a driver’s license and a tax advisor. Surely losing balance for love is part of living a balanced life. …


Why now we feel more insecure about our bodies than ever before

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Photo by Jonatán Becerra on Unsplash

I am insecure. I think about what I look like every day. If you are an average woman who grew up in the first world, you probably do too. Have you ever wondered if you would be happier if you only had thinner thighs and shinier hair?

As adults, 90% of British women feel body-image anxiety. And it doesn’t wane — many women in their 80s are still anxious about the way their bodies look which can even affect their treatment in hospital, when their health choices are influenced by aesthetics. …


Now try to deal with it without going nuts

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Every generation is convinced that they are special. My grandparents because they lived through the war, my parents because of the beginnings of democracy and the moon. We have social media and technology. We are super-connected (with literally everything except ourselves). We are part of a gigantic network, but we are, oh so unique.

We are taught that each of us is special, we all have a mission to fulfill and that our individual decisions matter. You can be whoever you want to be! Dream big! Make mistakes! One person is enough to change the world! Follow your heart! We all suspect constantly that we are just a step away from becoming a famous influencer, a big life coach or the next Mark Zuckerberg. …

About

Daria Krauzo

I love books, carrots and (very) long walks. I write to make sense of being human. / www.dariakrauzo.com

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