5 Interfering Emotions
I want to address five emotions that commonly interfere with life.
Negative emotions can stifle your personal development and growth. How do we break through these outbreaks of raw feelings? How do we grow and develop beyond hurtful episodes that bury themselves in our subconscious and influence our lives? How do we change and grow so that we can live our dreams?
The first step is to break the hold of these inhibiting influences from the past. Recognize them and then either get rid of them or turn them into a positive force that pushes you ahead rather than holds you back. Identify these inhibiting memories of events in your life so that you control them rather than allowing them to control you. Did someone hurt your feelings? Forgive them and reframe it. Move on. Did someone punish you unfairly? It’s over. It’s done. What can you learn from it for the future?
Here are a few of the most common emotions that burrow into the subconscious and impede our growth as individuals:
Anger: This is a natural response to a perceived attack or injury. It makes inner energy flow. But when allowed to simmer, it depletes energy that could be used to improve your life. If you hold your anger for more than a week, it is only hurting you. Convince yourself to let go. Envision yourself throwing it out. Ease your mind by focusing on options and opportunities. Transform your anger into positive motivation. Don’t get mad, get motivated.
Revenge: This is the first cousin of anger. It also robs you of strength in the long run. The person who has injured you has probably gone on with their life and so should you. Don’t let the injury hurt you further and inhibit your growth. Lose it or use it. Instead of saying, “I’ll get them,” say, “I’ll show them. I’LL BE SOMEBODY GREAT!”
Sadness: This is more crippling than anger because it drains you from the start, sapping your will to go on. You probably will have to let this drain away slowly at its own pace. Time heals inner hurts, but if the sadness seems to linger, try to consciously force it out. Seek out things that make you smile and feel positive about life. Realize that feeling sad will not change anything. However, peace of mind will serve you well.
Resentment: Life is hardly ever fair. It is unrealistic to feel any other way, and holding on to resentment is no way to fight back. Drop it and get back into the battle. Things don’t happen to you. Things happen for you.
Guilt: Guilt is another emotion that stands between you and your dreams. All of us have done things we feel bad about and regret. Things we would do differently. Many of us carry that guilt around and it keeps us from moving forward. Don’t let you or other people put you on a guilt trip. Accept that nobody is perfect and we ALL make mistakes and have regrets. Say to yourself, “I am a worthwhile person who is learning and growing and attempting to get better.”
To rid yourself of these past emotions, put them in a perspective that is positive rather than negative and thereby cut off their painful roots in your subconscious. Reinterpret the past with these methods:
1 — I am going to get better, not bitter.
2 — My pain can result in my gain.
3 — What doesn’t kill me can make me stronger.
4 — Nurturing negative emotions only poisons me.
5 — I give myself permission to get over it and smile.
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Daryl Daughtry / www.ResultsRocket.com