Daryl Lloyd Kenny
Jul 27, 2017 · 2 min read

Firstly, I want to say that I love your writing.

I’ve been in that situation being left aroused and it is difficult to not apply pressure. In one experience a lady had brought me to her place and we were in bed together, naked and playing when she decided she suddenly decided she didn’t want to have sex. I stopped touching her, got up, turned the lights on and sat on the bed and talked to her. She said it just didn’t feel right, whatever that meant. I asked if there was something wrong and she said “no, it’s just sex but it doesn’t feel right.” She then said I could continue to touch her but no sex. In my mind I was like “Hell no! We will end up having sex and tomorrow she’s gonna accuse me of rape because she told me no.”

I got up and put my clothes on and caught a cab home.

I am not attempting to blame women for being raped because there is no excuse for a guy to proceed when she says no. However, she had been a willing participant for hours and then said no and I’m the first to admit that I tried to talk her back into it. Is that unreasonable? What if after talking to me she had agreed to sex? Would that have been coerced?

What if she had said no and then allowed it to proceed? Is it still rape? What if I did as she said and I could touch her but no sex — but in the heat of the moment it becomes sex and then she claims she said no? Am I a rapist?

I didn’t know the answer to any of these questions so the solution for me was to get in a cab and go home. I’m not sure how many other guys would have done the same.

Daryl Lloyd Kenny

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