25 Things I Learned in My 20s After Turning 25

D. A. Smith
Feb 20 · 3 min read
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After turning 25 last October, I learned that a lot of people still consider me a child and so “very” young, yet mature for my age. All I’ve got to say to that is.

Mmm. K.

So, now that I’ve entered my mid-twenties. There’s a lot of things I wish I could warn my younger self about. But, instead of doing that, I’m going to make a list that no one will ever see sharing what things you should do before turning 25. And, if someone is reading this list, I hope you thoroughly enjoy it:

  1. You will not become an overnight success even if it took you 10 years to write, self-publish, promote, and sell your first science-fiction novel through Amazon KDP.
  2. You may not get married. But, everyone around you will get married. And, they will send you invites. And, you have the right to decide not to go or to attend. Your choice.
  3. But, if you must go to a wedding, do not go because someone is forcing you to go, i.e. your parents.
  4. Dating is nothing like the Twilight movies. Men do not glow. They aren’t going to run in front of a speeding car to save you. And, they probably don’t know you exist.
  5. Avoid staying at a job you hate for longer than a year. Even if Google advises you to stay at your job until you can find something new. Sometimes, your sanity is worth more than a paycheck.
  6. Do not spend all of your paychecks on food in order to deal with the emotional pain a soul-sucking job causes.
  7. Go to college, only if you want to. I have a lot of friends who feel like they went through a lot of B.S. for a B.S. degree.
  8. Learn how to love yourself.
  9. If you must have a side-gig choose something you LOVE so that it won’t hurt as much when you’re working…, after work.
  10. Start an emergency saving fund even if it’s two hundred bucks. Rule of thumb, make sure you have enough money in your bank account to cover an auto insurance deductible.
  11. Always keep your relationship professional with your manager and colleagues, unless they are real and they don’t keep shizz from you.
  12. Never keep friendships with people who don’t appreciate you. Cut them off early on.
  13. Love is not how much you do for someone or how much you can get out of someone. Love is sticking together regardless of what you have and don’t have. It’s not a feeling. It’s that person’s way of life.
  14. Find Power higher than you that cannot be seen by the naked eye. And, then worship it.
  15. Get life insurance, while you’re young.
  16. Start working on the goals you’d hope to accomplish with a significant other, right now.
  17. Do not live a YOLO or FOMO life. Just live it right.
  18. Don’t get upset, if your dreams when you were a teen of retiring a millionaire by the age of 23, with a house, kids, and a cute dog doesn’t happen.
  19. Follow your passions and dreams, but don’t do so blindly, realize that you will have to sacrifice something; time, money, energy, your ego or happiness.
  20. Do not assume that reaching your thirties means that you are getting old.
  21. Don’t ruin your health with junk food and booze. Age will do that for you, on its own.
  22. Help the next generation. Don’t scoff at them. Even if you think their idea of entertainment is dumb.
  23. Don’t work on being happy. Work on being contented.
  24. Live for the present.
  25. Life is precious. And be grateful you’ve made it to 25 y/o.

D. A. Smith

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A nerdy twenty-something who writes about work, being a full-time caretaker, anime, and sci-fi & fantasy books. Check out her official blog at DASmithWrite.com.

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