I use my smartphone for two reasons:
- To ask my mother what she wants me to fix for dinner when I leave work.
- To find out how many Amazon Kindle Books I haven’t Sold (yet, again).
Once those two tasks are complete, my phone is just a pretty paperweight. I haven’t upgraded because no one communicates with me. I wasn’t always an introvert that focused on only cooking dinner for my mom and reading Amazon kindle stats. I used to have friends to text, people asking me about my weekend plans, and so on. Now, I get excited when a telemarketer calls because at least I can have a conversation with someone other than my mom (I still love you, ma!).
However, what happens when you meet a nice guy that you have a lot in common with, your conversation leads to you giving him your phone number, and then you let him know in passing to text you anytime and he doesn’t?
What goes on in your head when you don’t hear from this dude? Well here’s what you’re probably thinking:
Did He Die?
When you have a good conversation with someone and expect a text message within a day, a week, or at least a month after meeting with him and nothing happens. You’ve probably assumed he’s dead. Like it was a violent death, so tragic that his ghost couldn’t find his phone during the incident and text a first and final “frowny” face emoji.
His Bae Deleted Your Number.
He probably was let off the leash, allowed to do what he wanted to do at the location where you met him. And, next thing you know he ghosts. It’s not because he didn’t develop some friendly feelings for you. He probably just let “bae” borrow his phone, and when she saw a number that she didn’t recognize, she did the next best thing and purged ALL his contacts except hers and got into a heated argument about trust and texting other beyotches (I’m looking at you Rob K. post Black Chyna).
He Thinks You Cray!
After waiting for a day or month or two to reach out, you probably got anxious and texted him something simple like: “Hi, great meeting you”.
At this point, guess what’s going on in his head:
“Oh my god, she’s trying to lock me down! Oh, heck nah!”
“Don’t she know I’m a busy businessman conducting business!?!”
“I’ve got way too much on my plate, I have Doritos Loco’s Tacos stains all over my favorite white game controller!”
“This chick psycho, who text’s someone after getting their phone number???”
Or some other manly thought along the lines above.
Finally, He Just Wasn’t That Into Texting You
Maybe you‘re not the first girl he’s talked to in eons. And, he was just passing time by talking to you. He had no intentions of communicating with you outside of this one personal setting. And, he probably isn’t that much of a texter himself.
So what should you do, if you see this man again?
- Confront him: I’ve done this and let's just say nothing changed. I did get an apology and a friend request on Instagram that I quickly rejected.
- Put Your Phone Away: And, look for human beings to speak to face-to-face. Texting should never control you.
- Set Your Phone On Fire: Because you might be psycho and may have been texting him 90+ times in less than fifteen minutes.
Do you have any advice to help me or someone else dealing with this situation?
And, if you’re a guy who dodges text messages let me know why in the comments, I’m curious!