The Importance of Time — Take a Minute and Make Things Better

There’s a ridiculously easy way I solved my boyfriend’s problem.

You see, the two of us are far away from each other. He had to move because he got what was basically his dream job offer in California. He graduated a year ahead of me, so I’m staying behind to finish my degree.

It’s been really hard for him to make friends.

That’s really tough for him, because here in Ohio he was pretty popular.

His problem is basically that people are really fake in San Francisco, people keep acting like they’re his friends but only keeping the relationship superficial. Like, they’ll be all nice to him and say that they should hang out sometime, but then they flake out if he texts them.

That kind of thing. So he doesn’t feel very much at home, even though he’s got a great job and pretty much everything you could want.

It was especially bad on his birthday. He told me what happened was he tried to get some people together to hang out, but everyone was busy or flaked out. He had to spend his twenty-third birthday alone.

But everyone texted him. Or sent him messages on social networks.

And that was the worst thing was that all this stuff made him feel even worse, like to these people he was only worth an instant message. Like spending more time wasn’t worth the effort.

Naturally it was a lot of pressure for me to make him feel like I spent time on his birthday wishes. Of course I got him a present, but I wanted him to know that I was thinking about him the whole time.

That’s when I stumbled on this cool little site called Minute of Life.

It lets you do something that’s a little bit different from all this other stuff. It lets you make a message that lives at one point in time — like, you create your message and set its time. Before then you can’t see it.

I made a slideshow of my favorite pictures of him and our time together. Then I set it to play at eight and waited for the notification that he had watched it.

At 8:05 I got a call from him. He was almost crying.

I wouldn’t believe it myself, that there can actually be a message that means so much to a person. But he said that it was the best gift he had ever gotten.

Honestly, it’s not really something necessarily about Minute of Life, but it definitely helped.

The point is to take some time with your messages, don’t just write something that you can throw away in a minute. Let your boyfriends, girlfriends, family, or friends know how much they mean to you just by taking some time and making your messages as good as they can be.

What do you think? Let me know in the comments.