What I Learned About Success By Becoming a Life Coach
Two years ago, I decided to become a certified life coach. I figured it would be an amazing way to live my passion of helping people live extraordinary lives. However, I didn’t yet understand that this decision would radically transform nearly every aspect of my life. Becoming a life coach has taught me a lot of valuable lessons. Here are my most powerful insights.
1. The Only Thing in the way of Success is Ourselves
When most people come up with reasons why they don’t succeed, they usually state a reason outside of themselves, such as, “I didn’t have enough time”, “I didn’t have enough money”, “the diet didn’t work”. After all, it feels a little better if you know that your failure wasn’t actually your fault. Well, guess what, it was your fault because all of these reasons are complete crap. If you don’t have enough time, that’s on you. It just means that you didn’t make your goal a priority. If you didn’t have enough money, you could have cut back on some unimportant expenses to create capital for the project that was important to you.
Of course, we can’t change the past, and this article is about moving forward. The bottom line is you need to start taking responsibility for your results. Realize that 99% of the time, what’s stopping you from achieving your goals is not some external circumstance, but an internal block. These internal blocks come in four forms:
Assumptions based on the past
Interpretations of what circumstances mean
Limiting beliefs about the world
Discovering and moving past these inner blocks takes some deep introspection and honesty or perhaps some help from a professional coach.
2.Your Subconscious Mind is far More Powerful Than You can Imagine
Have you ever experienced the difficulty of completely breaking your pattern? For, example, have you ever not worked out for three months and then out of the blue you just go to the gym? Whether you have or not, you probably know what a challenging feat this is (not just working out, but anything new you want to try.) This is because 95% of the time, you are pretty much on auto-pilot. To break out of your everyday patterns requires something called “activation energy”. I like to think of this as a fancy name for willpower. Nevertheless, it remains difficult to deploy this energy because our minds are designed to run on auto-pilot.
Have you ever tried to convince yourself do to something to something aligned with your goals after you’ve already decided on instant gratification? For example, if you want to eat healthy food, you might pick up a piece of candy, but at the last second you say “I shouldn’t eat this.” But, then, your doubts start to creep in. You might start to say to yourself, “just this one piece of candy won’t hurt” or, “it’s gonna be so delicious, I’ll give in just one last time”. The only problem is, these destructive patterns take over by default more often than not. Once you fall into one of these patterns, it’s nearly impossible to get out.
That’s why you have to break these patterns before they take over. You can do this by using the five-second rule. When you notice yourself starting to fall into a destructive pattern, count “5 4 3 2 1”, and immediately move your body into action. For more on the 5-second rule, click here.
3. Taking Responsibility for your Environment is Vital for Success
This point relates to my first insight, but it has one key distinction. Blaming aspects of your environment for your failure is one of the most common excuses out there. The main difference with this insight is that although there’s a lot of people who take responsibility for their actions, almost nobody takes responsibility for their environment. If you do this, you will be a huge step ahead of almost everybody.
But why is taking responsibility for your environment so important? Can’t you just take responsibility for your actions? Well, the truth is, at least to some degree, you are the product of your environment. Your environment plays a huge role in whether or not you will achieve your goals.
To illustrate this, let’s pretend you have a goal to eat healthier. Now imagine your pantry and fridge are stocked with nothing but fruits, vegetables, and lean protein. It seems very likely that you would achieve your goal. Now let’s pretend you have the same goal, only this time, there are potato chips, powdered doughnuts, candy dishes, and Cheetos perpetually sitting out on your counter in plain site. Your chances of succeeding are slim to none! Sure, it’s possible to see the junk food sitting in front of you 30 times a day and will your way into not eating it, but it’s just not practical. You may live with someone else, and none of that junk food is your’s, but still, allowing it to sit in plain site is pretty much setting yourself up for failure.
That’s what it means to take real responsibility. So think about your goals. What factors of your environment will help you achieve your goals? Maybe it’s time to start spending time with different people, go out into nature more, or even do something as simple as keeping your phone in the other room when you’re trying to work.
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