The Beliefs That Hold You Back
What you believe almost certainly impacts your output. It can have a positive or negative effect, but almost rarely a neutral effect.
When I’m talking with people who are stuck, I find the root of the problem is almost inevitably something they believe.
Empowering beliefs can help you progress towards your dreams while limiting beliefs can hold you back.
It doesn’t take me a long time to cut to the core of someone’s beliefs. But I am beginning to realize this can be a problem if I want to have a civil conversation. Taking too aggressive an approach can lead to arguments, which can negatively impact relationships.
The reason I even hold up a mirror to reveal how someone thinks in the first place is because I hate to see people struggle, especially when they could be enjoying a more fruitful and fulfilling life.
Tony Robbins believed that instant change was possible. Much of his study and research was dedicated to understanding human psychology and how we could rapidly change states.
I also believe that change doesn’t need to take forever. Certainly, building towards your dreams will require persistency and consistency. But you can go from defeated to empowered in an instant. I can think of a few instances in which this happened to me, and I’m sure you can too.
In that moment, maybe it wasn’t your beliefs that shifted. But your attitude did. You experienced something that caused you to change perspective.
You went from being discouraged to inspired again. You found hope.
I don’t hold the key to instant change. But what I do know is how beliefs can hold you back.
This is because through the years I’ve held onto many beliefs that held me back.
I’ve also noticed how tightly people hold onto beliefs that do not appear to be serving them.
This isn’t to say I’ve somehow come to the point where I have a core of “perfect beliefs” that help me achieve everything I want in life. Far from it. I have friends who continually challenge my beliefs and urge me to see opportunities I’m not currently seeing. That’s the great thing about surrounding yourself with people who care, because limiting beliefs are easier to see from the outside looking in than they are to see for yourself.
The scariest thing about beliefs is they are drilled into us from the moment we are born. Parents, media, education, church and religious organizations are all responsible for instilling these beliefs in us.
There is no “blank canvas”. Our core beliefs are essentially dictated by where we were born and the people we were surrounded by.
I have no doubt some good beliefs found their way into your consciousness.
But among those good beliefs are many defeating, conflicting or otherwise disempowering beliefs that got you to where you are today.
What’s the definition of insanity again? I’m not going to repeat it here.
By the way, if you’re happy with where you are today, then this message is not for you.
But let’s say you believe that God is good. That seems like a perfectly sensible belief.
But you also believe that money is the root of all evil. So, that must be one of the ways in which God is being “good” to you — by not allowing you to get money.
You don’t need money, right? It’s not important. Things will take care of themselves. There are no bills to pay.
It’s a strange belief but there are many that hold to it.
And, if this is a part of your spiritual journey, that’s fine. Maybe money gets in the way of your relationship with God.
But most of us have struggled with money at one time or another. And, if you haven’t yet, there’s a good chance you will at some point. It feels awful when you can’t make your next mortgage payment.
I don’t equate spirituality with suffering myself, though some do. If you want to suffer, then keep holding to the belief that God is good, but money is the root of all evil.
It’s important to ask yourself where your beliefs are coming from. Only you can decide what’s right for you. But if you’re living a miserable existence, it’s likely because of your beliefs. How do you know if you’re out of alignment with yourself? Your beliefs make you feel bad.
Next time you catch yourself giving excuses for why you can’t do something you want to do, stop and ask yourself: What is it about my beliefs that’s holding me back?